(Christians) It’s getting harder for me to deal with this pain… I need some advice?

So, your type of girl you like is the quiet, shy, reserved, introverted, educated kind of girl. It's ok and not weird the least bit. Everyone has a preference about the qualities they like so it is really ok.

Let me tell you, my partner is the opposite of my qualities but we get along. He describes your Fiancee' and I am the kind you described as being shy, reserved, quiet, etc. At times we clash but we accept each other's differences and all goes fine. There is really no formula to this.

All you have to do is ask yourself if you could live the rest of your life with this lady. You already have many doubts about her traits as you are unsure how to adjust to these but on a day to day basis you can track how comfortable or uncomfortable you are with her being outspoken and all the things you described. If you cannot handle these situations then she isn't for you but if you can shake it off and keep going along with her then shows you can adjust to her personality in all situations.

This is one of those things where you just have to take it slow and keep weighing your feelings daily. Sounds like she almost fits your "ideal" girl but at the same time she does have the qualities you have been looking for, to a certain extent but the main thing is that you like and love each other which is the strongest bond right there. So my advice is as I said before, don't rush into a committment yet such as marriage.

You need to give your relationship more time to see if you do change your mind somewhere along the line just to protect yourself. I say this because too many people get caught up in the glamor and excitment of a wedding and the idea of marriage so these people jump in and then when the excitement wears off, they get scared of the committment they made and then life is a mess. I am just saying, don't let your Fiancee' push about marriage if the subject should come up.

You wrote that you have doubts and I just want to assure you it is a caution not to move too fast. It is that you already notice you are a little uncomfortable, so again take it slow from here on in. In time you will know if you want a committment with this girl or not.

Trust your "gut." My best wishes. This is awfully long too!

=).

You're either going to have to adopt some of the ways of her lifestyle (since her way is healthier if you ask me) or you guys aren't going to work out in the long run. Cheers.