My boyfriend cheated, I took him back, he stopped but then did it again once recently. Take him back again, or no?

My first reaction was to tell you to move on, but then you mention that you had cheated also. Whether or not your own unfaithfulness was "as bad" as his isn't the point. You both cheated.

If you really care for one another and want it to work out, you need to understand why you both cheated. Could be that you both are afraid of commitment, or that you aren't meeting each other's needs emotionally. Is this relationship merely based on physical attraction for one another, or is there something deeper that makes you want to be together?

You may need to do some joint and individual sessions with a counselor to work those issues out. If you're certain that this guy is worth that effort, and he's willing to make the effort, too, then I wish you both all the best.

I think you should both take a good look at your relationship. If you both are not being faithful there has to be reason. You should re-evaluate your relationship.

Obviously there is something wrong, perhaps you're not getting what you need from it. Couples counseling might help you figure out what has gone wrong.

Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. Why put yourself through the stress? I believe once a cheater then always a cheater, don't take him back.

Neither one of you is going to be monogamous. It would be best if you both admit that you are in an open relationship and to stop becoming upset when each of you have your flings. There is nothing wrong about having an open relationship as long as both persons know what the rules are.

You know, this is really a personal preference type thing. I mean, my own personal beliefs - I am not one to "cheat" so I probably have no ground here. However, since you both stray from the relationship, then maybe that is your relationship.

If you both can deal with the other stepping outside of the relationship - no matter how often - then more power to you. If you can work things out for all the better and neither of you have an issue with the infidelity (or is it really called that when you are both doing it? ) then I don't see the problem.

The key here, I am thinking, is to be honest with one another. If that is how you want your relationship to go (both stepping outside the relationship) and you both agree - then there isn't any stress and worry. Just talk about it....If you love one another and want to spend time together, these things tend to work themselves out.

Just talk about it :-).

If you haven't been faithful either the answer is a bit different than if you had been 100% faithful to him. Having said that, I don't think you can have it both ways. If he means that much to you then why not BOTH of you try first.

Then if he cheats again I would find another partner. But you have to be prepared to be faithful in return. However it does sound habitual to him and your behavior, in the long run, probably won't change the outcome ( sorry ) Then again, if your relationship is an 'open' one where you both accept infidelity then it should be OK too.

Partners stay together if they have the same moral code :) trust, respect, honesty and overall communication is the key to a lasting relationship - if sex with others doesn't infringe on that who is anyone to judge you both. It has to be 'even' no matter what.

I think. A big NO. Once is enough.

Twice is too much. Trice is dangerous. So think of it.

He's not just the guy living on earth. Maybe someone is better than him. :).

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