My Ex-husband is taking me to court for full custody of our children?

First let me say you are not alone in this experience. It has happened to a lot of us. I feel for you as it is so gut wrenching its hard to think straight, sleep, breath, eat, exist.

The mind wants to slip in to PROTECT mode for the child but be vary careful that you don't become a danger. Do not DO NOT get into a tug-a-war with your child. Neither of you will end up with her and she will be come custody of the court or state.

The win at all costs is a loosing battle. And in the heat of it the huge mistake of putting all your effort into trying to get the other person to do what you want is counter productive and instead makes you do what they want. Put all your effort into controlling your self to do what you want.

Focus on doing what you know is right. This by no means is easy and you will be wise to have friends who can help you. When I longed to feel the snap of my X's neck I instead would call my friend and many many occasions he spent helping me refocus.

I was able to return the favor to another one of my friends. I have been down this road and Still fighting to see my daughter. Yes she has been filled with lies and she now defends her mom with lies.

HOWEVER because of how I conduct myself I can clearly see in her head the truth catching on her gears and her eyes show it. If I may suggest ( I understand you cannot do so here for privacy sake) Start referring to your little girl by name and not calling her your daughter. This shows others and the court you don't view her as a piece of property but see her as an individual with rights that you respect.

Be willing to take the painful turn out for her sake. I have dealt with just about as much as a human can stand because I saw each battle with her mom was killing the very thing I was fighting for. So be willing to let go if you must.

King Solomon solved a dispute over a child and 2 mothers who claimed the boy as theirs. He decided to cut the baby in 2. However the real mom was willing to give him up completely for the sake of the baby.

Solomon knew that this was the real mother. You must be willing to do the same. (1Kings 3:23-27) When it comes to getting your visitation rights documented make sure you have it in fine detail.

I am still working on this at the moment. But take note of the comment at http://au.answers.yahoo.com/question/ind... All I can do is try and help you remain calm. No matter what happens it will not be as bad as it looks.

Worst case you do not get to see her for 20 years. I have a good friend and she lived that life. She reconnected with her dad and thy are the best of friends.

I know its hard but try and set your will aside and take a good hard look at what will be best for her. What ever will be most stable and consistent for her is probably going to be for the best. God knows all the moving I did I am just now discovering the mess it made of me.

If in all your effort that is most apparent it cannot do anything but help you especial in the eyes of the court. Because thats what parents and dads are all about. Making sacrifices for the sake of our kids.

One final thought. If your girl is 12 she may have a say so in court. At least that is how it goes in Texas.

If she does not have custody, she is essentially kidnapping the child. It's illegal what she's trying to do and you need to contact your local police department if for no other reason than it will look *really* good in court (once you do go) that you at least tried your hardest to prevent it from happening.

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