My fiance's guess list, friends family is 3 times the size of mine is it fair to my side to let her invite everyone?

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Obviously, the more people that attend, the more mouths to feed and the smaller the cake slices are going to be! Whomever is paying the bill may be the one to make a few demands themselves! Secondly, the smaller the guest list, the easier it is to get a few moments to go around that night and speak to people a tad more intimately.

You probably won't have much time as it is. If there's people on that list that she doesn't know well, then they shouldn't be on there. My personal take is that the "closest" of close people should be invited and maybe a few others that you would like there, but people like to blow these things out of the water.

I wouldn't worry about if it's fair or not to your side. If it's going to cause trouble between the two of you to try to get her to cut her list down, then let it go and just enjoy yourself. It's a night they dream about their whole lives and they seem to need as many people their to see them in all of their glory and it's over in a flash.

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My opinion... I know there is protocol and rules and all this stuff involved about what you should do, but my opinion is, don't let ANYONE tell you what YOU should do. Basically, you need to do what is right for you. And if you're not really sure what that is, I'll give you a hint.

Invite who you want to be there. In my wedding, we invited all my parents' siblings, even though there were a couple aunts/uncles I never spoke with on any even semi-regular basis. I found out that one of my Dad's sisters had expressed she was really excited months before and had bought a new dress and was losing weight to fit into it.

This surprised me as I probably hadn't spoken to her in well over a decade, and essentially her "claim to fame" was having one child my age whom I never could stand to be in the same room with....he and I were like oil and water from day one. So, why she was excited about my wedding when she hadn't seen me in years and had maybe met my fiance one time, I wasn't sure. But OK, she wanted to be there, I was more than happy to invite her...problem was, she'd recently moved and I didn't have her address.

And my parents didn't have her address. And the aunts and uncles I normally speak with didn't have her address. Someone in the family was to help me secure it, but we couldn't wait for one address to send out invitations to everyone (we had 110 guests total and we needed to make sure they were informed).

So, we sent them out, and she saw one that we sent to a different aunt before we were able to get her address. So maybe 2 weeks after we sent out the first set (and there were others that went in a 2nd set as well, just logistics), we sent the second set with hers in it. Well, she told everyone she wasn't coming because the invite was an afterthought!

Point is, unless you can afford to invite everyone either of you knows or is related to, no matter how distantly, then you're going to offend someone. But in the end, it's your wedding, it should be the best day of your life...celebrate by having a big party, and by inviting the people you want to party with, and if anyone has a problem with that, too damn bad! .

Starting a marriage this way doesn't seem......sharing a life together! Have you discussed this with her? If you have and she doesn't get it.............well.......what else isn't she going to get.

A marriage relationship is sharing, giving, being sensitive to one another's feelings, and give and take. Who do you invite? First family, then CLOSE friends, (not the milkman, etc. ) then go from there.

Depending upon the size of the wedding, you may not even want to invite all of your family. Only close family, then close friends. If someone is upset because they didn't get an invite, explain that you are having a small wedding, due to the cost, etc. If they are upset because of this..........then they weren't really friends to begin with.

Also, you may invite people just to the reception, and not the ceremony. Or, you may want to just have family for the ceremony and reception, and later hold a party for your friends. It's your wedding and it should be the happiest day of your life, plan it so it is!.

Face the tough truth - There is no "even Steven" marriage. The whole act of getting married is about making sacrifices on behalf of another. This is just the first in a very long line of lopsided, unequal decisions.

Some will benefit her, others you. Don’t seek balance in these things; just seek the happiness. I wouldn’t be worried about counting noses.

Rather I would ask yourself if everybody that you really-really want to be at the wedding is invited. If not, ask your fiance if some of the people on her list are not ’really reallly’ want to be there people. If she’s inviting people she hasn’t seen in twenty years, and you are not inviting relatives that live in town, well, that seems like a problem.

But as long as everybody who you really want close to you on your wedding day is being invited, who cares how many she invites? That’s just a question of cost.

It really needs to come down to a decision you make together. Who is paying for the wedding? How many guests does the budget allow?

How do you and your fiance feel about balancing the lists? If she or her family are taking the traditional role of the bride's family pays for the wedding, then she may feel a bit more entitled. This isn't necessarily right, but it might explain things a little.

If I were you, I would sit down with your fiance and discuss this and all other aspects of the wedding planning. You should decide together how many people you will be inviting based upon budget. Of this number, you shoul alott a certain number to your parents, a certain number to her parents, and a certain number to each of you.

Who you each decide to add to your lists will be determined by the numbers alotted and your individual priorities as to who you want there. There are no hard and fast rules that say you must invite every relative and every friend you have ever had. I gave each set of parents the ok for 20 people.

If they wanted to fill their lists with friends or family, it was up to them. This took a huge amount of pressure off of my husband and me during the planning process. We each had 20 seats to fill and felt comfortable balancing friends and family.

With that, try to remember that you will never be able to please everyone but you should work like hell to try to keep each other happy. It is very easy to get caught up in trying to please our respective families, or not offend anyone while planning a wedding. My advice to you both is to plan according to what the two of you want and leave other opinions or wishes alone.

Your respective parents will surely survive if they don't control every aspect of the planning and if they don't get to invite everyone they want. This is your day. The reality is that 90% of a wedding is a dog and pony show for all of the guests and you and your fiance won't even remember most of it.

Still, if you want to have any sanity during the planning process and during the wedding and reception, then keep the decision focused on your wishes as a couple and leave everyone else out of it. Planning a wedding and starting a life together is stressful enough without all of the outside influence that frequently comes across as criticism. Congratulations and good luck Mamasunotheremuch's Recommendations The Knot Ultimate Wedding Planner: Worksheets, Checklists, Etiquette, Calendars, and Answers to Frequently Asked Questions Amazon List Price: $16.95 Used from: $3.25 Average Customer Rating: 3.5 out of 5 (based on 41 reviews) Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette, 5e (Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette) Amazon List Price: $27.95 Used from: $9.59 Average Customer Rating: 4.5 out of 5 (based on 25 reviews) .

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I do not get along with my best friends boyfriend at all! Do I have to invite him to my wedding?

When you separate friends from family why are the family on list marked "pending.

I understand having a Friends list; I use mine fairly often. But why do I want/need a Favs list?

My 9 yr old daughter didn't get an invite to a VERY good friends party. We're close to the family. What should I say?

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