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This is the part of the OPPOSITE SEX, that MEN have to LEARN to understand. It doesn't make sense, which is the hard part to understand. Guilt and Regret have nothing to do with WHAT YOU DID, it has to do with What She Feels and How She is Handling it.

You don't know if its Guilt or Regret, so you don't know how to help her. What you can do, is TRY to DISTRACT her from herself. This is done with SWEET GESTURES and Any Thing that would Make Her Smile.

In my case, the first time I had sex with a "squirter", she did not know what it was and was embarrassed that she peed on me and the bed during sex. There was a GIANT WET SPOT on the bed. I'm NOT sure I figured out WHAT MADE HER attitude change, but IT CHANGED.

I apologized to her FOR THE MESS I MADE, while we changed the sheets and used plastic over the wet spot. I took the blame, even though I didn't make it, I KNOW I HELPED CAUSE IT. When we cuddled again, she told me what happened and how embarrassed she was.

I waited about an hour and told her, I knew. I explained to her, what I knew about "squirting women". She was shocked and surprised at what I told her and that I APOLOGIZED to her for it.

I got LUCKY on this one. But I have met other women, that do similar things or have that type of reaction. I DON'T KNOW WHAT CAUSES IT, but I do know, that "distraction" has worked for me.

Give her A Flower at some point (not a rose), just a flower. (no reason either. Just do it).

Tell her "I like the way you glow when you see me." (even it she doesn't) Tell her a cute story or a joke to make her laugh. Pay her a compliment (even if fake) to make her smile. Buy her a $5 or $10 gift card and tell her : "I though of you when I saw this, I had to get it for you."

The card or gift DO NOT have to make sense, it just HAS TO DISTRACT HER. DO SILLY STUPID THINGS that make her smile or laugh. You'll have her undivided attention and she'll know "It's all about Her".

Example: (1) At different times, batt your eyes at her, like they do in cartoons. (2) Inhale deeply and SIGH at her in public or private. (3) Tell her that the best thing you like about her is, Her good taste in men.

(referring to you) (4) Unexpectedly say "OHHH!", when she ask "What? Or What happened?" Tell her your heart skipped a beat when you looked at her.

(5) Again, UNEXPECTEDLY and any given time, say "People who Love me say WHAT." When she says "What?". Tell her you love her too.

Then explain what you just said. These are guesses, I don't know if she has Guilt or Regret. But IF YOU didn't do anything wrong, then it's her.

WOMEN... Hard to Understand, but HARDER, not to want them.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.