My out of town boyfriend came for a visit this weekend and my mother asked me where he was staying?

My out of town boyfriend came for a visit this weekend and my mother asked me where he was staying... and I told her with me...she went onto asking if he was staying in my bedroom. First of all, it really is none of her business to even ask and second off all, I own my home and I am 52 years old, been married and divorced, and have two grown children..she told me she was shocked and never thought that I would do something like that..What's wrong with this picture and why can't I get over that my mother acted in such a way? She actually wanted to stop talking to me over this.

I could have lied to her, but that is childish and I really don't believe in lying, but why do I feel that I had to even answer her question? Asked by livinthedream 25 months ago Similar Questions: town boyfriend visit weekend mother asked staying Recent Questions About: town boyfriend visit weekend mother asked staying Lifestyle > Relationships.

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You did the right thing...after all you are an adult. If you want to be intimate with your boyfriend, what better place than your own. Sometimes parents cannot understand that scenario and think with their blinders only.

I hope you had a great time with your boyfriend and do it frequently to keep the passion going! .

Habit, probably. I understand - I'm still feeling like my relationship with my parents never really progressed past the way it was 40 years ago. (Yikes, that's really weird to realize...) I'm divorced, middle-aged with a grown son, and I live a thousand miles away from them, but there are just some things... It is really hard to come up with a way to say "that's none of your business" in a way that doesn't sound hurtful.

But, I did have to do it once, and that changed some things in the relationship. (just curious, what did you tell her? But, it's none of my business either...) It's something I'm trying to be more aware of when I talk with my son, so maybe that's some good that can come out of the situation.

You feel the way you do because she's your mother and you're her daughter. That won't change. But you want it to change: you want to be able live your adult life with your adult friends doing things adults do while also having your daughter-mom relationship.

No one gets to have it both ways, however, and your question is a result of your having tried. Lie to your mom? Of course not.

You should have refused to answer her first question. But, now that you did, you're where you are and she knows what you're about. Now your relationship must progress from that point.

You cannot go back (nobody gets to go back. ) You can only go forward, so plan how you will do that. Heck, maybe you'll even get to have it both ways.

1 My mom would have said that too. I think they know...STD's are out there and if you don't have sex with the person...then they may marry you more. Honesty is good.

She is codependent or just wants to feel like she is still needed to be the mom....wants to be needed. Happiness...

My mom would have said that too. I think they know...STD's are out there and if you don't have sex with the person...then they may marry you more. Honesty is good.

She is codependent or just wants to feel like she is still needed to be the mom....wants to be needed. Happiness...

2 Don't ask me, I'm 49 and still don't smoke cigarettes in front of my parents.

Don't ask me, I'm 49 and still don't smoke cigarettes in front of my parents.

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Were you ever asked to choose between your boyfriend/husband and your family.

Oh! By the way,one of them is already my boyfriend,the other(we've liked each other 4 two years now)finally asked me out.

When I was just a little girl, I asked my mother.........

Am going to nz to see my boyfriend planning on staying for a while what do I need am from the states.

My boyfriend has a mate thats staying with him long term and I never get anytime alone with him. What should I do?

My friend's boyfriend of three months just told her an old girlfriend of his is in town and will be staying in his.

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