My Sister's Husband always insults her ,she works full time does all her part and pays all the bills ,cares for in law?

My Sister's Husband always insults her ,she works full time does all her part and pays all the bills ,cares for in law Asked by Nikey2010 13 months ago Similar questions: Sister's Husband insults works full time part pays bills cares law Society > Religion & Spirituality.

Similar questions: Sister's Husband insults works full time part pays bills cares law.

I've got to think it's affecting their relationship. She's the one that has to do something about it. How is her self-esteem?

Do they have children? Does he do this in front of them? I think you have to provide many more details before you can get a definitive answer, but right up front, it's wrong and she shouldn't put up with it.

She does not have any kid. As her husband is not interested in that life and always give her finance as excuse for not having kids. Since me and my sister are geographically very far so I did not speak to her for while as I thought she was buys with in laws and husband and I did not call her that frequent,,but now I know that her husband did not want me to talk to her as he knew that she would share with me all this and I come to know ,she had told me once not to call that often I thought it might disturb their schedule but her husband had told her not to talk to me as I will make some straight decision ,so basically they are just married on paper for 4 years with no other life no emotions..He has used all her money that she earned for 4 years to pay bills and (also her husbands sister & sister's husband) they do not work they are just eating on all her money that she earns and before going for job(she is school teacher in India),she prepares all the food and her sister in law wakes up at 11:00 and then just haS to eat the food ready on table and then she eats her food goes in to her bedroom and sleeps..she is not working for past 1 year .

I cannot even write this on internet ..but please let me know she should give some chance to her husband? Basically her sister in law ruined her life as she know what ever she says her brother will do that..that sucks about orthodox culture..i hate that as it is male dominating culture..women has to bear all that ..nobody wants to speak openly..please help me take right decision.... Nikey2010 13 months ago .

Well, your sister is a saint and your brother-in-law is the devil! It sounds like an abusive relationship to me. She's probably trapped in it.

Unless she wants to get out of it, there really isn't a solution. He's controlling her through his verbal abuse. Keeps her working while he can lay about.

If she says anything, he'll probably start yelling at her. So she probably just keeps her head down. She should probably just get out.

He's not going to change.

Thank you for your reply. I am working on getting her our but in our culture if girl gets divorced people make life hell. Out of that.So I am little worried if she will get good guy(husband) in future,,just pray to god that we make right decision for her..i am really upset.

Just pray and pray that may god give us courage and we take right decision for her. Nikey2010 13 months ago .

You must live in a small town. There's no stigma in divorce in the big cities. In fact, most of the single people over a certain age are all divorced.

I think that approach will not be helpful,but I am trying to make sure that things resolve by talking ,,i will have my parents go and talk to her husbands parents and see what that does..if not I will try to bring her to USA for her new future life ..just hope that it all goes well and everyone is happy..as ending relation is not solution but if it has to then I will make sure she can move on with new beginning and has better future ..Thanks for your post.. Nikey2010 13 months ago .

Maybe she should consider being an ex. She takes it because she chooses to. If she wants some respect she needs to stand up to him and tell him to STFU.

If not, butt out because it seems to be working for both of them.

I have to comment on your statement "basically her sister in law ruined her life as she know what ever she says her brother will do that..that sucks about orthodox culture. ". Her sister in law did not ruin her life, if her life is ruined she has allowed it.

She is staying in it for some reason we know nothing about. Offer her a plane ticket to your town and offer to let her live with you until she recovers. If she says no, she is where she is because she chooses to be.

Thanks ..your reply really helps..god bless you Nikey2010 13 months ago .

I do not know what my sister wants but I will help her to make right choice ,and thanks for your help that really makes a lot of sense..i will try to give her all the support..god bless you.. Nikey2010 13 months ago .

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