My son is 17, dating a 14 yr old, moved out, smokes pot, won't get a job, screams at me, I am the one that has alwYs stuc?

My son is 17, dating a 14 yr old, moved out, smokes pot, won't get a job, screams at me, I am the one that has alwYs stuc Stuck up for him, hes been in trouble with the law at a very low rate twice which we got thrown out, I am scared I have lost this used to be gentle boy...please help Asked by ddwclc 5 months ago Similar Questions: son 17 dating 14 yr moved smokes pot won't job screams alwYs stuc Recent Questions About: son 17 dating 14 yr moved smokes pot won't job screams alwYs stuc Family > Parenting.

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You won't have to worry about him long.....you will know exactly where he is. Call child welfare and see who can help you! .

This is a complicated issue that has involved your parenting skills since he was born. Children generally mimic their parents, learn how to act or rebel! He sounds very angry...what would have caused this?

Have you a partner? Until you sort his anger issues it will never be solved. I think you will need to disengage from him until he is willing to sit with you, and you lsitening not molly coddling, or interupting or telling him what to do...but just listen to what he has to say.

It usually does happen, they will express what is happening in their lives. Has he ever had to accept responsibility for anything in his life? Do not give him money or stick up for him until he can relate his issues with you!

Jexebellion 5 months ago.

Maybe that was the problem, you always stuck up for him, never let him face the consequences of his actions. What state are you in? Unless its a state with close age exemptions he is breaking the law if he's having sex with a 14 year old, and that WILL ruin his life, and if he's smoking it with her, thats another strike, contributing to a minor .

Look up Al-anon on google right away. Start going to these meetings and all your questions you have will be answered. There is nothing you can do......forgive yourself and realized, you've done t he best you can with the information you have.

Go to these meetings now and start taking care of yourself. You need to learn to have boundries and not take this abuse anymore, you need to learn to forgive yourself that he didn't turn out the way you wanted him to, you need to let go and allow him to live his life the way he has decided to live it.......so sad, very hard, but there is no other way.

I too have a 17 year old son that is acting out and won't get a job. He received his GED in January through the Youth Challenge Program at the age of 16. He did wonderful for a few weeks after he graduated the program.

In March my oldest son, whom he looked up to so much, was killed in a car accident. Since then My 17 year old has not been the same. I chalk it up due to his loss, there was a 10 year age difference between them.

My oldest was not the best mentor but he did keep him straight. Now my youngest thinks that I am suppose to get him a job, wash his clothes, buy all his clothes and give him money. I do have a court order for child support but have not received money on that in years, he also thinks that as soon as I get any that is to go directly to him.

(His father owes me almost $20,000 in back support. ) I know that he is smoking weed with his friends so I have told him I will not contribute to his habit. He makes me look like the bad person to my sisters because I won't give him money or what he wants.

However, I have told him and them that if I had the money I would be glad to take to the Mall and buy him pants or whatever he needs, I will just not give him the money to do it because I know where it will go. At this point he would rather stay at his friends house then at my house, unless he wants food then he will come home but it is usually for just a short while. And he calles just about everyday to see if I will give him money and if I don't then he starts making rude comments to me about if he comes to the house and finds anything new he will break it because we didn't have the money to buy it.

My son and my husband do not get along but it is only because my son will do what he is asked not to do in our home. He shows neither one of us any respect. We are in the process of getting custody of my husband's 14 yr old daughter and the way my son is acting we feel may not help us.

We tell him that but he does not care, he does what he wants anyway to the point that we have had to call the sheriff, not to kick him out but to show him that we mean business when we ask him not to do anything in our home that is illegal we mean it. He went to my sisters and of course I was a bad mother for doing that. I call it tough love.

And would do it again if he continues to do as he is, he has more at steak now he had a fine he had to pay by Nov. 4th that I told him I would not pay because I did not get the ticket. He now has a warrant out for his arrest. He says that it is my fault because I did not find a way to pay for it or take him to find a job-even tho' I have a full-time job myself-and have offered to take him but not hunt him down and drive all over town to pick him up.

I told him he had to be at home, up and ready to go on a Saturday by 9 if he wanted to go and if he wasn't then I had other things I could do. I hope it is just a stage they go through at this time. My oldest son son went through a similuar stage but he was drinking alot.

My middle son is 23 and he never went through this, thank God! I am only human an am trying to deal with the loss of my oldest son and what is going on with my youngest at the same time. I do go go counseling and have tried to get my son to go but he refuses.

Not sure if anything I have said helps you with your son, if you need to talk about anything I am here. Jpg.

He is 17. You can have him arrested for running away. When he is in jail and you goto bail him out take him to a rehab facility.

Upon discharge from rehab, move.

So stop sticking up for him. Let him be arrested so he doesn't screw around with that 14 year old and get himself into some real, permanent trouble. "Gentle boy"?

You need to let him get hurt so he learns what consequences are all about.

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