My wife and I do not tongue kiss. Kissing, she says, is even more intimate than sex. What to do?

When a woman is raising small children, Mother Nature provides that her sex hormone levels lower greatly so that her focus and nurturing is on the children. I'm sure there was a time when you were her entire focus, but now she has offspring. This is the way of nature.

Meanwhile, most women have zero clue about the sexual nature of a man, or that her husband is lonely, feels neglected. We just don't get an education about these things in school (none of what i've said, unfortunately). My best advice is to take your wife out on dates.

Arrange to do things together without the kids. Find a competent, trustworthy babysitter. Be more attentive to her.

You didn't say whether you're a hands-on father, but believe me, it's appreciate when we (as women) have a man who takes the initiative to feed, bathe, and even cook for the kids, do some vacuuming or laundry, etc. Men who are hands on parents are actually more compassionate people. And it's a benefit to the kids if Dad is bonded. Your wife will likely start seeing you in a bit of a different light if you make some efforts to involve yourself with raising the kids, if you're no doing these things now.

And the dates -- do it! Plus, there is nothing wrong with talking with your wife. Letting her know you miss her touch and the intimacy you had in your relationship.

One of the most huge keys to a successful relationship is sharing emotional intimacy, which involves communicating our feelings, and needs. A good measure of emotional intimacy leads to physical intimacy also. If you can't talk with your wife, there's a definite problem.

Get emotionally close again! You can find a lot of good info about emotional intimacy in marriage online, as well. Take care.

She could just be tired. It could be post-partum depression. It could be she doesn't feel desirable so she's not being intimate (and that means more than just sexually).

TALK TO YOUR WIFE. If she's tired, then you can help take over some of the household chores and family duties. If it's depression, you can help her find a counselor, or even just be her shoulder to lean on and ear to listen to her.

If she doesn't feel desirable, you can show her that you still think she is.

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