On his/her death bed, your spouse admits to numerous acts of indiscretion throughout your marriage. Can you forgive him/her?

If my spouse on his death bed admits to acts of indiscretion throughout my marriage, I know it would really hurt but I will do my best to forgive him. It is not easy because I will feel that I was betrayed throughout our marriage but how can I not forgive someone who is passing away? It is the least I can do so that he will be at peace and I know that by confessing to me his acts it is a sign that he acknowledges his wrongdoing and realized that he has hurt me and wanted my forgiveness.It would be a long and hurtful process but I am willing to grant him the forgiveness he wants because I am not perfect.

Like him I am also a sinner and I have my share of shortcomings too. Maybe I am too busy wrapped up in myself, my career, that in some way I have neglected him that contributed to his infidelity. I will think that it is not only his fault that he was able to do such acts.

Nevertheless, I would be thankful that he admitted these things to me. To forgive and forget is the best thing to show to him how much I love him, til death do us part.

Yes, because I would then wish him dead, and he would be. It would save me the trouble of killing him.

Interesting question, dtvrivera, and not one that is easy to answer. It seems like no decision in such a scenario would be particularly easy to make, and certainly, it would be hard to condemn anyone for choosing to wash their hands of an unfaithful spouse. As for myself, yes.

I would forgive her. The fact that her conscience felt enough of a pang of guilt for her actions that she felt she had to tell me what they had done demonstrates that she at least cared enough to mention it. Despite the fact that she had done wrong, it seems as if there would be a request for forgiveness implicit in her confession of guilt.No doubt I would feel angry and hurt and betrayed when I learned about these acts of indiscretion, but I would stay with her the remaining hours of her life, because turning my back on someone I had once cared a great deal about who was dying is not an action I'd care to have on my conscience.

It would not bother me (much) at all. S/he is going to be gone soon and because of all of the indiscretions, I would not feel bad about going on a date as soon as I can get out of the funeral attire. I truly believe that I would have known about (most of) those flings before s/he told me.So...I would have had enough time to get over the hurt feelings.Intuition.

I think if my spouse spent his entire life successfully hiding his indiscretions from me, it would be very mean spirited to blurt them out shortly before his death. I would stay present until I could figure out what that was all about. As far as "forgiving" that would depend on the ensuing conversation.My first marriage was so irretriveably broken by the time I found out he cheated on me it didn't really make much difference in how I felt about him.

IT was symptomatic of our problems - not the cause. My second marriage was much more like the scenerio you describe. I thought I was happy every day of my marriage until he walked out on me.

Later information revealed he didn't care for me at all. Ouch. I work more on forgiving myself than forgiving him.

I would like to think I am forgiving enough to forgive him before he died, but I know. I would feel hurt and betrayed and would that overshadow my forgiving nature until it was too late? I just don't know.

Hmm It would depend what it was. Chances are I'd be insulted he waited. I doubt I could bring myself not to spend his dying moments with him, or even to never forgive him, but I wouldn't excuse the actions simply because he died.

I'm not christian I don't think asking forgiveness wipes ones sins away.

Good question, you would probably want to forgive at the immediate moment but I think it would fester later after the death when you think of questions that can no longer be answered. But it's hard to say for sure until your there and I'm sure the outcome would be different for each individual. Especially those that answered the person I know you did and so did I.LOL.

I would like to think that I would tell them that I forgive them whether I actually did or not. It would give them peace in their last hours. I would feel obligated to spend the remaining hours with them.

I'd be afraid if I didn't I would regret it later on.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.