If you are not wearing it at a party that only has women you are perfectly permitted to not wear it sister. However you should not arrive or leave the party without it if there is a chance other men who are not your mehrams will see you. But just in the company of sisters it's permissible.
They obviously don't understand the rules of hijab sister, it's not just your attire but your conduct that creates hijab. A headscarf does not = hijab. 24:31 And tell the believing women to reduce some of their vision and guard their private parts and not expose their adornment except that which necessarily appears thereof and to wrap a portion of their headcovers over their chests and not expose their adornment except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, their brothers' sons, their sisters' sons, their women, that which their right hands possess, or those male attendants having no physical desire, or children who are not yet aware of the private aspects of women.
And let them not stamp their feet to make known what they conceal of their adornment. And turn to Allah in repentance, all of you, O believers, that you might succeed.
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