Were you bullied or harassed or "tortured" in High School by the other kids? Why?

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I was tortured as a young middle schooler by a kid and his brother The brother was in my class and the older kid was a couple years older - and they had another brother that was a year older and had dropped out. The kid in my age group was a year older because he had failed a grade - I really don't know how I ticked him off, but I did. So he'd hit me, offer to beat me up in front of the girls, put my clothes in water when we were in gym - the whole deal.

Once, I got in a few punches and his older brother really cleaned my clock, but good. Sorry, you didn't tell people about this kind of stuff, if you were a man. So.

I did push ups, lifted weights, wrestled, punched a bag - and stood up to 'em. Got my butt kicked two on one and three on one a couple more times, but I did well. Went in the army after - Airborne Ranger - eventually ended up in the MPs as well, civilian cop.

Decided to chuck all that and ended up an electrical engineer and now a trainer. I go to the reunions. The brother in my grade is there - and his older brother - who flunked again and ended up graduating with my class is there as well.

We have respect and there's no more problems. I understand kids are creeps, and I am sure I was one as well. Forgive and forget.

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I was bullied in a public US school It is hard to say why kids found me a convenient and attractive victim. I expect I was just different. I was a straight A student, a girl who wanted to take Electronics, and had very little interest in fashion or sports.

I liked math. I had a large vocabulary. In other words, I was weird.As a result, I had to watch very carefully that papers I handed in didn't get stolen, that I didn't keep anything important in my locker, and that I didn't walk near any tripping feet.

I got framed for things a few times, though no one believed it was me. I was threatened and people spread rumors. I was given the standard advice: 1.

Just ignore them. They are only trying to get a rise out of you, so don't let them see that it bothers you. This was bunk, though I couldn't explain why at the time.

No one should have to endure abuse stoically. Ignoring them just took away my ability to respond, but it sure didn't stop them. They can tell they've bothered you when you studiously ignore them.

2. They are just jealous of your good grades. This didn't come with advice per se, but the implication was that if my grades dropped, my popularity would improve.

That seems extremely unlikely, and not a good idea either. 3. Someday you will be successful and they won't.

This did nothing to ease the pain, and it wasn't at all clear that the people who succeeded in manipulating people and being in cliques wouldn't be able to use those skills to get ahead. So none of the advice was worth anything, and I concluded that the adults were helpless to stop it. I understand the situation is better now, and bullying is seen as a real problem rather than a rite of passage.

I hope so, because my daughter will be starting school in not too long. No one ever apologized, but I didn't expect them to. I did go to my 10 year reunion, and had a reasonably good time.

It wasn't that well attended, and most of the bullies weren't there. Eventually, I suppose the bullies grew up, and either ended up in jail, or turned into decent people. I grew up, too, and while I didn't forget what happened, I did forgive.

I am still trying to understand what brought about the extraordinary hostility toward me, when I was just a quiet kid trying to get along. I think it is partly because of early training. A small boy pushed my daughter down, and his mother did nothing at all, even though she saw it.

Had my daughter done that to someone, she'd have had a stern talking to and a time out, and had to apologize to the other kid. I expect the boy might grow into a bully someday, and meanwhile I have to find a way to teach my daughter how not to be a victim. Any ideas?

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Yes, sometimes. No, teachers never did squat about it. Yes, I once saw a former bully.My parents divorced when I was five, just a few weeks after I finished Kindergarten.

I was promptly uprooted and hauled off to another town. My Mom led a very unstable life afterwards. I attended a completely different school system about every other year.

I was never able to keep a core group of friends. As the "new kid in town", it was always a challenge to fit in. When I started a new school I would sometimes luck up and fall in with a popular group.

Sometimes I would mistakenly sit at the lunch table with unpopular kids. I had no trouble making friends, but who I made friends with had a bigger impact than I knew when I was young. If I got with a popular group I was by extension "popular" and suffered no real bullying.

But, if I got identified with an unpopular group, I would often get harassed or bullied quite badly - even being beaten up. As far as I can tell it was totally random as to what group I was associated with. I was the same person at each school.

I could not tell on the first day at a new school which groups were popular or not. I do recall that moving from one group to another was difficult. The old group would consider me a traitor and the new group would consider me a poser (new word applied to an old situation).

The only relief was to move again. When I was young I tried to tell teachers that I was being treated badly, but they never helped. I quickly realized that asking for help only made matters worse, so I just kept quite and tried to stay close to places where teachers were around.

I did have a bus driver who let me sit in the front of the bus to escape a bully. But, generally teachers did nothing helpful. Of course, I now realize that they really couldn't and still can't help.

I have never been surprised by school shootings as retaliation for bullying, because it can be nearly unbearable. When I was in college, I went to visit my mother one summer where I had attended middle school and had had a very rough time. I went to the marina with some friends to go boating and saw a former tormenter of mine on his hands and knees scrubbing the dock.

I had grown alot more muscular since being a pudgy 8th grader. We looked at each other for just a few seconds. We knew exactly who we were and had been.

I stared confidently and he turned back to finish his work. To this day, it was one of the most pleasurable moments of my life.By the time you get to the high school reunion stage all that bullying crap is over. The worst bullies are either in jail or grown out of it.

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1 I became a pacifist early in life. Being overweight, at daycamp, all the boys would make fun of me. My parents got some advice and told me to call them names back.

I was apprehensive and I resented the fact that I had to assert myself and do something like that. When I finally did, I couldn't handle myself and both the kid and I got in trouble. I remember that to this day and have been steadfast in not doing that again - even though my parents later told me it was ok if I got in trouble.

I DID NOT WANT TO GET IN TROUBLE FOR SOMETHING THAT WASN'T MY FAULT - and that was final. I didn't want to call the kids names if I was also going to get in trouble and had no ways of defending myself. Of course, I was 7 or so at the time, and communication at a young age between parents and their kids is difficult, though I think I told them I didn't want to do it again.

I was not that kind of person, and actually, I've just realized that now. I won't tell my kids that either. Telling a higher authority is a very, very good thing because they have more power than you do.It shows that you are the abused and offers no confusion.

BTW: the kid told on ME! .

I became a pacifist early in life. Being overweight, at daycamp, all the boys would make fun of me. My parents got some advice and told me to call them names back.

I was apprehensive and I resented the fact that I had to assert myself and do something like that. When I finally did, I couldn't handle myself and both the kid and I got in trouble. I remember that to this day and have been steadfast in not doing that again - even though my parents later told me it was ok if I got in trouble.

I DID NOT WANT TO GET IN TROUBLE FOR SOMETHING THAT WASN'T MY FAULT - and that was final. I didn't want to call the kids names if I was also going to get in trouble and had no ways of defending myself. Of course, I was 7 or so at the time, and communication at a young age between parents and their kids is difficult, though I think I told them I didn't want to do it again.

I was not that kind of person, and actually, I've just realized that now. I won't tell my kids that either. Telling a higher authority is a very, very good thing because they have more power than you do.It shows that you are the abused and offers no confusion.

BTW: the kid told on ME!

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