Should I feel guilty that i'm not obliging my daughter's dreams to have a baby sister or a dog? how can I make it up?

You should not feel guilty about that. It is your choice to have another child, not your daughter's. At the end of the day, it is not going to be her that changes the dirty nappies, gets woken for feeding during the night, or has to cover the growing expense of raising another child.

Having a child right now, you know how hard it can be on you emotionally, financially and physically. If you're not in a position to have another child, nor do you really want one at this point in your life, then you shouldn;t have one to appease the child you already have. I think most little girls dream of having a little sister (or brother) to "look after".

However, you're going to be the one doing all the work and having to make drastic changes to your life that you really might not want to right now. Kids love to hold sleeping babies..when they are awake and crying/teething/have a stinky nappy, it's another story. Besides, there is no natural guarentee that you will have a girl.

What happens then? Will you feel guilty because you feel you have disappointed your daughter in not giving her the sister she wanted? Will you feel forced to try and try again by your daughter until you get it right?

As Drmatt said above, she can't have everything she wants. This is especially so when the demands are that high. You're the mommy, it is your body, your money and your emotional/physical/financial life at steak here, not your daughter's.

Sometimes it is hard for a child to understand this, but you need to think about what is best for you and your whole family, and the implications another child will have on your family unit right now. As for the dog, that is totally up to you. Again, you are going to end up being the one that is responsible for the animal.

You're going to have to walk, feed, clean and pay the vet bills. Also, if you don't have the time or space to commit to having a dog, then you should not think about getting one. I would actually suggest you get your daughter a small pet that is easy to manage as a compromise.

For example, a rabbit or hamster would be awesome for a little girl. This will help teach her responsibility and will be a great little friend for her. These are pretty easy to manage and care for.

Good luck and don't feel pushed into anything you don't want right now. You should not feel guilty about that. It is your choice to have another child, not your daughter's.

At the end of the day, it is not going to be her that changes the dirty nappies, gets woken for feeding during the night, or has to cover the growing expense of raising another child. Having a child right now, you know how hard it can be on you emotionally, financially and physically. If you're not in a position to have another child, nor do you really want one at this point in your life, then you shouldn;t have one to appease the child you already have.

I think most little girls dream of having a little sister (or brother) to "look after". However, you're going to be the one doing all the work and having to make drastic changes to your life that you really might not want to right now. Kids love to hold sleeping babies..when they are awake and crying/teething/have a stinky nappy, it's another story.

Besides, there is no natural guarentee that you will have a girl. What happens then? Will you feel guilty because you feel you have disappointed your daughter in not giving her the sister she wanted?

Will you feel forced to try and try again by your daughter until you get it right? As Drmatt said above, she can't have everything she wants. This is especially so when the demands are that high.

You're the mommy, it is your body, your money and your emotional/physical/financial life at steak here, not your daughter's. Sometimes it is hard for a child to understand this, but you need to think about what is best for you and your whole family, and the implications another child will have on your family unit right now. As for the dog, that is totally up to you.

Again, you are going to end up being the one that is responsible for the animal. You're going to have to walk, feed, clean and pay the vet bills. Also, if you don't have the time or space to commit to having a dog, then you should not think about getting one.

I would actually suggest you get your daughter a small pet that is easy to manage as a compromise. For example, a rabbit or hamster would be awesome for a little girl. This will help teach her responsibility and will be a great little friend for her.

These are pretty easy to manage and care for. Good luck and don't feel pushed into anything you don't want right now.