What are some questions that I could ask to detect a narcissist?

I am not a doctor but... These questions were derived from what I read at the sources below. To detect a potentially narcissistic person I would try by asking 1. Do you feel people criticize you with good reason?2.

Why do you feel/think it is that people envy you? 3. Why do you feel/think it is that people admire you?4.

Where can you find the most room for improvement within yourself?5. How important are you?6. Are you a narcissist?

My answers and I am not a narcissist; 1. Yes I have many character flaws and welcome constructive criticism.2. Envy?

Me? Are you kidding? 3.

Admire? Me? I really doubt that anyone admires me.4.

I can improve in every single area of me but I could most improve in my listening skills. 5. That depends on who else you ask, I'm situationally important to some but to most people I would imagine that in the big picture I am not that important.6.

What is a narcissist? - (really I had to look it up to be sure) I think a narcissist might answer like this; 1.No. I am often criticized without reason.2.

I feel and think people envy me because of my big dreams and big successes. 3. I feel and think people admire me because I am usually right and have a lot lot offer.4.

I like me just the way I am. 5. I am very important to everyone in my life because of all I bring to the table.

People look to me for help, guidance, and understanding in everyday situations. 6. No, not at all, I am just smarter/more successful/better looking than your average person I think If someone were to ask a person suspected to be suffering from Narcissistic Personality Disorder the questions I have suggested above and their answers were close to my suggested (read educationally guessed) answers from a narcissist then one might be talking to a person with NPD.

If the answers were closer to the honest answers I gave then the person answering the questions is not likely an narcissist but I would think that any real and solid diagnosis would have to come from a qualified professional as NPD is difficult to treat even from a professional level so a few questions from the likes of me or you would be less than enough to be sure one way or the other.

When looking at this link halcyon.com/jmashmun/npd/howto.html I found that the person states many times that a true narcissist will have a complete lack of empathy. They will also have a very hard time paying attention when someone else is talking. There are quite a few more 'red flags' on this link.It's an interesting read.

Here is another great link 2knowmyself.com/Pathological_Narcissism_... that shows these bullets as the common symptoms of narcissists. ~Striving for attention ~Exaggerating their Worth ~Lacking Empathy ~Obsessed With Fantasies of Unlimited Sucess ~Expects Others to Glorify him/her This site also offers ways of dealing with one. Both of these links should be able to tell you if this friend is really a narcissist.

I'm also sorry that you're stuck in this situation. I wish you luck!

First just to clear the air, I am not a narcissist, I just happen to be awesome and vocal about it ;o) I'm kidding of course. This is a sticky thing to try to find out, I have a close friend that brags freely and after getting to know him I have concluded that he has low self esteem and tries to talk himself up to build his confidence. I frequently joke as though I have an over abundance of self esteem, but that is just me not taking myself very seriously, it helps me relax and shake off a bit of stress.

What actions does this person do that makes you think he or she is narcissistic? Chances are it is not what you ask, but what he or she likes to talk about that will reveal it to you. Is the person's favorite topic themselves?

Do they seem to relish talking about what they do, while showing a lack of interest in the lives of others? Note: It is the second part that is important, lots of people like talking about themselves and if you ask someone about themselves they may talk a lot simply because they are flattered. Do they spend every chance they get looking in the mirror?

First, go with your gut feeling. If you think this person is, the person probably is. A simple question such as "How was your day?" can give you a clue.

Look for an answer where everything gave "me" a problem. Narcissists love drama - especially drama that revolves around them. They also like to cause emotional chaos and then watch everyone else try to cope with the situation.

Dump the narcissist. Unless they go into some very heavy therapy, they can't change. Any "love" you give them will be seen as something they deserve and not as a gift you are giving them.

There is also the danger of physical abuse, not to mention the constant emotional abuse because they can only feel good if all around them are feeling bad. This person will bring you nothing but grief.So why waste your time on someone who will never be able to appreciate the wonderful person YOU are.

Here's a simple test:

More seriously, I suspect that he was just anxious, and wanting to make an efficient evaluation of whether or not you are interested in a long term relationship with him. Seems a bit premature, since what you are wanting is empathy and connection. However, he was able to make this evaluation which is why he did not pursue you any further.

Also, he does not know how to be empathic, which is true for many people.

I will say that I have some narcissistic tendencies. I'll rattle off some things right out of thesaurus. Com and then back up with examples: Main Entry: narcissist Part of Speech: noun Definition: egotist Synonyms: boaster, braggart, egocentric, egoist, egomaniac Main Entry: egoist Part of Speech: noun Definition: self-centered person Synonyms: boaster, braggart, egocentric, egomaniac, egotist, narcissist , self-aggrandizer Notes: an egoist thinks the world revolves around him, an egotist is someone who cannot stop talking about himself There are times when it makes me good at what I do.

Just listen to how many times my name is mentioned in this demo I sent to a local talk-radio station for a contest (didn't win a show for a month and officially retired my radio pipe dream after 17 years--unless someone has a time slot open or needs imaging, etc. ):...in just 15 seconds, my name is said 5 times. Me, a voiceover guy in the US, me again, a voiveover guy from Australia and then my father calling in. The girl's laughter is really from a show, the bit is really from a show, and the guy introducing the bit is a voiceover artist from Canada.

The station manager (who is the guy feeding my ego saying I was a sensation in this clip) begged me not to do bit and stood on other side of glass outside of studio, cringing until it was over. I wanted to take my show out of the studio, they said no. I pushed and finally got the OK to do 3 live-remotes.

The center of attention, 4,000 people in front of me with my voice and my show's live radio signal--no delay--coming over a Class I NCAA Basketball stadium, down on the court, live mic in my hand? NAR-CI-CIST. I was in hospitality in a tough town--DC.

I was then a co-owner of a home-furnishings store here in St. Louis. Both positions required a certain level air of superiority so that people think you know what you're talking about. I could very authoritatively say "I saw that show at The Kennedy Center just last week, "I ate at this restaurant and loved it," "I was standing right in the factory where this was made in Zhuhai, China," "I picked this one out myself at The Jade Market in Hong Kong" or "I designed that piece of furniture.

" All me, me, me and all true, true, true. And to top it all off, in 2002, we opened a spin-off, an art store. I had a great idea on how to not have to pay for on-camera talent--I did it.

(photo of outtake below) So my name appeared in the corner of the screen, and for about 2 years, people would come in and say, " you're that guy from TV, right? " And I'd always respond, "You know what, I am, and I'm so happy you recognized me that I'm telling our sales staff to take 10% right off the top of whatever you get today--even if it's on sale." I, I, I; true, true, true.

And $$$. There were other times when I'd be in our other store and I'd hear our sales staff trying unsuccessfully to close a deal. I'd go out to the register and say to the customer, "They call me 'The Human Coupon.

' I'm one of the owners and any deal I give you will be the absolute best one you'll get in this store. "Me, I, I; true true true. And $$$.

The next last thing I usually said in those exchanges was "Will that be Visa, Mastercard or Discover? " followed by, "If I could please have your signature here," followed by "Thank you very much. I hope to see you soon.

" Don't ask and don't assume. Just observe. I had a lot of high-dollar narcisstic clients in DC.

Just look to see how into themselves the person is. I built a whole image on the radio on narcissism. I had no personality before that.

So it was a double-edged sword. I know when to turn it off. The person who can't is a complete narcissist--and if I'm saying that, believe me, you're getting it right from The Horse's Mouth.

It's no surprise there's a cologne named EGOISTE. I wouldn't be surprised if I found my photo next to narcissist in the dictionary.. I, I, my.It's second nature! The first step is admitting it.

Seeing how you asked the question I will take for granted you know what a narcissist is. The only question you have to ask a person of this calling is-Tell me about yourself? If two hours later they still telling you about themselves they are a narcissist.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.