What can you do if you discover your spouse is cheating on you with your best friend?

I discovered that about my spouse and the woman was no friend of mine. So if she was a best friend of mine,my reaction would still be the same. He has to go.

Because he did it again and again. Very seldom does a cheater change his or her ways. Some can change.

But those who do not. It's like asking a leopard to live without his spots.

1) Obviously, that person is not a best friend, nor any kind of friend at all. So some relabeling of relationships is appropriate.2) Divorce. 3) In some states, one is able to sue the other person for having contributed to the destruction of the (marriage) contract.

You should leave him/her in a minute without of possibility of getting back together,because if he/she did it once he/she will do it again.

Maybe it is a thing if you are young...not ready for marriage yet. I would confront him. If he doesn't want to change...then end the marriage and find someone who will be loyal.

I would never talk to either of them again.

Leave and find someone who can really be a best friend, and a man who can really be a spouse. What you have now is nothing. Neither of these people are good enough for you and you will never be able to trust either of them again.

My dear, pain pain pain. There is no repair for the loss of trust. I know plenty of women who divorced right away and some that stayed up to 28 years of marriage and still left them for a younger woman....churches are filled with these stories, I also have a friend who cheated on his wife 35 years ago at the begining of their marriage, she forgave him and he lived his life making it up to her.(rare but a marriage can survive) By biblical or legal means, it is a cause for divorce.

Forget the friend, she is not physically-emotionally-spiritually-financially commited to you..he is (it could have been any jane doe, this time you know the woman, next time you may not) my husband just went through a midlife crisis, swears he didnt, he travels alot one day I started looking at his bank statements from the business account and pieced everything together, he admits to only wine and dine, strip clubs, expensive jewels were his watch collection, he even had baught a sports car and motorcylce all cash(which I had no idea he knew how to ride) without my knowleged he had these vehicles in another state at the hotel suite he was renting. I flew down there to confront him and he took me to have lunch, the bar tender even the lady who valeed our car knew him...apparently he was well known to all the clubs, drinking pubs, and waitresses all greeted him by name Everywhere even at a run down sushi restaraunt I chose to get away from the city...he was the city's apparent bachelor...but to this day swears he never slept around. I decided to stay, it isnt easy, and I still cry almost everyday becasue I wish I didn't love him more than myself.

He is trying very hard to make it up to me but I don't know if I can do this...its been two years and I just cant move forward. We have our religion, but my faith took a big hit, my husband was a spiritual leader in my community, so that was more devastating blow, but like I said, despite what he has done, I still am trying to work it out and it is the hardest thing to do. It truely takes a strong woman to risk it all again, what I am risking is the fragile peice left of my heart, it is what I have left to put on the table....and I have to trust him with that because if he messes up I don't think I could survive it again.

What are you risking in giving him a chance again? Is it worth that man? PLEASE understand...YOUR husband has nothing to give up or even risk, he already gave you up freely without a hint of guilt or even a blink for a piece of tail, its you that has to forgive, rebuild, repair..,all he does is say sorry and buy you flowers...a man can't loose..if he says he doesn't want to loose you....remind him that he did and didn't think twice when his lips tasted another woman.

Confront him with it! Those situations are NOT uncommon....It's usually a matter of--proximity.....Unless he's an idiot, he'll acknowlege, where he's better off....After all, YOU are holding most of the cards...

My boyfriend went through the exact situation. He got a call from his friend and he said (they kissed) he freaks out goes over to the house and beggs for this girl back. Sad I know lol when she said no he went into the room grabbed his friend (brian) and put him up against the wall and told him to kiss her in front of him to prove it.

And he did. Realizing the pain my bf went through he ran away from probation to oregon where he met me :) 3 months later. Here we are 3 years later happy as ever.(brian) and brook (bf's x) got together and broke up a few months after.My bf is still friends with brian there just not close anymore.

My advice is... obviously your friend isn't much of a friend but sometimes they cant help themselves... noone is perfect. My bf used to tell me how much he regretted not pumeling his friend but now its all dust under the rug. Cheaters never prosper.

Hold your anger in don't do anything stupid and you should be ok :) good luck. And im sorry.. thats the worst thing ever. What brian did still hurts my bf today.

But at least im here to comfort him now :) .

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.