What do you feel about the shaming tactics used against Pro feminist men?

I used to be pro life as I believed every child had the right to live and be raised by their parents. Adoption never crossed my mind though. As I go older I understood that life isn't black and white so there could be medical reasons for terminating such as a lady in Ireland who was denied an abortion, miscarried then died because of this.

The expectant mother shouldn't be forced to parent if she has been raped or she simply doesn't want to parent or go through pregnancy just to surrender. This changed when I went through an extreme form of coercion instead of being supported in my choice to be a parent. Nobody should be forced to go through pregnancy just to hand their baby over to somebody else.

I would never try and persuade someone to choose adoption over abortion. I have never got over it, have had to learn how to cope with the pain but nobody has been able to get me through depression. My son has also suffered because of being adopted and suffers with depression.

I agree with what you are saying but sadly there will always be people who are pro life no matter what the consequences are. I have often wondered if they would change their minds if they went through what I and millions of other women have gone through. They would only understand the consequences of encouraging mothers to surrender rather than abortion if they were forced to surrender their own child.

It's also sad that they don't encourage people to adopt from foster care. These children deserve a family but the pro lifers no matter what the consequences rarely if ever seem to mention this. If I was told I only had two choices of aborting or surrendering I would choose abortion because I know the pain of surrendering and it hasn't just damaged my life it has damaged my son's as well.

Now I am pro parenting first, family members having legal guardianship second and abortion and adoption being equal third place as the expectant mother should make the decision that is best for her.

I'd consider myself mainly pro-life (in that I don't agree with abortion, even though I can understand the reasons why women may choose have have one) and I also hate it when people promote adoption as an alternative to abortion. If I had to choose, I would much rather have an early abortion than go through nine months of pregnancy just to give away my child. But the point is that those aren't the only choices - women can choose to prevent pregnancy using a range of possible options, and they should also be given enough support to be able to choose to keep and raise their child if they do get pregnant.

For the record, this is the answer I gave to the last question on here that asked why women don't choose adoption over abortion: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;... So, I think your comments about pro-lifers are hugely stereotypical. There are actually several people who post in this section who seem to be both anti-abortion and anti-adoption. I, for one, always suggest adoption from foster care as I don't think newborns should be taken from their mothers.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.