1 I don't talk with my family/neighbors. I am in a different city than my family tree and my neighbors rejected me since I didn't put my clothes on the clothes lines and do things their way. My neighborhood is like a ghost town.
They cut the grass but otherwise I don't see them. People are too independent and no one is getting the support they need or want. Life is not meant to be in isolation.
2 Very sorry to hear those sad thoughts. You are not alone, many many neighborhoods are the same. As I had posted earlier people better start changing their attitudes.
Someday they may need that neighbor. The same goes for family. Ever watch judge Judy on t.v.? A lot of shows are about moms sueing daughters vice versa.
What a shame. I feel a whole lot of those cases could easily be taken care of out of court if people could only talk things out as an adult and stop acting like infants.
3 I guess we are lucky. My wife and I get along very well with our family, and property and money has always been passed on long before anyone dies and so far there have been no problems at all. We get along with our neighbors and have a neighborhood barbecue, play boche ball and while going for a walk, will sometimes be greeted by a neighbor, sit down and share a bottle of wine.So don't think that all people are having problems getting along with family and neighbors.
4 I can't speak for family, but I've found that with neighbors there is often a comfort zone that they want protected and respected at the cost of alienation. One of my former clients was very wealthy with a home in the "estate" portion of town. When I once mentioned the neighbors who lived several houses down in equal splendor...asking her something about them, can't remember what...her response was "I wouldn't know.
They're not 'our' kind of people. " Gads. When people qualify others by their own invisible standards, they limit their opportunities for warmth.
Now neighbors fight each other over petty things instead of being friends and helping each other. I live in a large complex but I am lucky (thus far) that my immidiate neighbors and I get along,but they know I look out for them and I believe they do the same for me. I let them know if someone I neer seen before is or was snooping around their Apt.
Or parked car, so they introduce me to their relatives so next time I know.
I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.