What will I do? im falling inlove in a priest, and im a married woman?

Nothing has to be done and you need to focus on your own family.

Im in the other country... my family is in our country... I called and text every day... stupidmom 7 months ago .

Thx.. I am now out... stupidmom 6 months ago .

Fall out of love fast. Do you honestly see a future with the priest? Does he feel the same towards you?

What would it do to him? Scandal in the church? Would he be ousted?

Look at every single possibilty.

Thank u... im now out there.. stupidmom 6 months ago .

If so, take the advice of the people below and change your church. Avoid a very broken heart and family. Sometimes we see people we think are in a position of authority, although your priest doesn't have any authority over you, and mistake that power as love.

I am now out...done.. stupidmom 6 months ago .

You sound like you are hoping he does. Thi sis worng, and you know it.It is a horrible thing to do to your family, and to the priest. Stop it.

Now. Change churches, if you have to. And you cannot fall in love with someone who does not love you.

What you are feeling is lust.

Thanks also to you.. I hope that tom..all my feelings 4 him will be lost... stupidmom 7 months ago .

How can I change church bec. Im also a member.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

People change churches all of the time - and for less serious reasons than this. If you were honest with yourself, you would not be making excuses as to why you cannot remove yourself from this situation. You know this is wrong, on so many levels, yet you are not willing to stop it.

Ok.. we will see on sunday.. I tell to anyboby, wat's happen on sunday.. ac2ally, after I red all of your messages, I wake up in my dreams.. that what I feel is bad.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

Clearly you are not, or you would have changed churches.

Seriously, girl. You have been looking forward to this day all week, hoping and waiting until you can see this priest again. You seem to think you are just going to fall out of love, but we both know that is not going to happen.

You, and only you, can break this fascination with a man you have no business lusting after. You are trying to break up your marriage, and tempt a man of the cloth to break his lifes vow to serve his God, for no other reason than your childish fantasy. You claim to feel bad.

You should. This is wrong, wrong, wrong, and not very Christian. Stop this behavior, and stop ruining the people around yous lives with your selfishness.

Yes your right, now im home.. I saw him again and we have a meeting for about 2 hours, im impocrite if im tell that I don't love him.. you know and I know that im wrong.. my mind always tell me that stop but my heart tell ther is a little bit.. he is my inspiration, and I know that my priest...,he will not pay attention to me..like the other guy, that if they know that a girl have a feelings they clutch immediately..i trust my priest.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

I give up. You are putting him into an extremely awkward situation by feeling that you have to tell him you love him. You seem to think that, somehow, if he knows you "love" him, he will love you back.

What you do not seem to realise is that he will probably ask to be moved to a different parish, to get away from you. That means you will not only force him to give up his flock, and move to a new place, you will also be depriving the other members of your church of his guidance and spiritual leadership. Your heart is not telling you there is a little hope.

The area of your body telling you that is a lot lower. And, because of your childish, selfish lust, you are going to ruin your family (you're a real peach, by the way, for cheating on your husband while he is gone) but you are also ruining the priests life and the entire rest of the church membership. Way to go.

You are going to have a LOT to answer for, when you meet your God. Grow up. Think about someone besides yourself for a minute.

Yes your ryt, if I tell to him maybe he will go far away and at the same time the members of the community will angry to me.. and blame me for that... I don't want to tell to him, if we have a meeting or a mass im only behave, not flirting, no need to talk.. im only quite in one place..im only look at him and listening.. is that alright.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

Just stop it. Stop trying to justify your bad behavior. Stop trying to convince us, and yourself, that this is right.No, it is not alright.

It's acually sick, and twisted. Do you believe in hell?

He doesn't know my feelings, and I don't want to tell him that.. im praying that god help me also in my situation, honestly speaking im disappointed earlier.. I called my bestfren in the meeting bec. Shes the only 1 we wait.. they told me that wer she is, I told is now here.. oh why you called her, when shes already here... I said we are calling each other although we are close.."for a change"..and I smiled...he laugh and im dis appointed for that..bec..me and my bestfriend are stuborn...hehehehehe... stupidmom 7 months ago .

Yes im afraid to go to hell...evry time a read your messages, im melting.. shy.. if your look at me now... but thank you to your messages to me.. your angry to me... stupidmom 7 months ago .

Thank you mr.turboB....done..... I am now out in the community... thank you so much...i have been relief.... stupidmom 6 months ago .

I cannot do that bec. Im also a member in my church.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

Thank you... I am now out, stupidmom 6 months ago .

Such feelings are not uncommon. Few men are as able to display the openness of heart and the understanding nature that a Priest often has. A hunger for such needs can easily cause one to form emotional attachments to someone who appears capable of fulfilling them.

Like emotions associated with sexual lust, these feelings can easily be mistaken for feelings of love. It would be helpful for you to examine the relationship that you have with your husband. It may be that there are important elements that are missing in your marriage that you imagine might be satisfied if your husband were more like your Priest.

Sometimes emotional needs that were not met when you were a child, often in the relationship between father and daughter, unconsciously motivate people as adults to seek their resolution in the relationships that they form. Unfortunately, all efforts to find someone who can satisfy these needs will ultimately end in failure. I believe that it is important that you tell this Priest about the feelings you are having.

Bringing them forward is the first step diminishing their intensity. I would not advise sharing them with your husband, as it is unlikely that he would be able to understand them and he might feel threatened by them. Sharing these feelings with a qualified psychologist who can to help you to understand their origin will lessen their influence over you.

This may also strengthen your marriage. Good luck.

Thank very, very much... stupidmom 7 months ago .

I don't want to tell him my feeling, bec. I know im the losser, stupid.. I tell myself to change everything.. wake up in my nightmare.. ask u've said, I must tell to myself bet. The relationship of father and daughter.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

You are neither a looser nor are you stupid. Your priest will not think less of you when you tell him. He will understand how conflicted you are, feeling his love for you as one of God's children as something more personal, and feeling guilt over your need for the unconditional love that he seems to be the only source for.

Priests are taught in seminary school that parishioners sometime confuse sacred love, which flows from God through the actions of the Nuns and Priests that serve with carnal love that He has blessed through the sacrament of marriage. Please do not try to overcome this feeling alone. Your priest can help you, if only to direct you to someone who can provide the guidance you need.

No need to tell bec. Now I told to myself to stop falling w/him.. I challenge myself a while ago.. I looked all his picture and videos that found in my cellphone.. and I ask myself.."do you still have a feelings or none?.... I ansewered "nothing", bec. All that i've seen only a pix.

And videos.. what about ing personal.."we will see"... stupidmom 7 months ago .

I'm only 29 years old and he is only 40 yrs.old.. I alwys convince my self that a priest are selfish.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

I pray that this day will go well for you. I am certain, given that he is not a very young Priest, that nothing will outwardly change. He will not avert your eyes, nor will he ask or want you to quit the bowling team.

Everything will be as it has been, except that having shared your feelings about him with him that a great burden will be lifted from your heart. If today is not the time to tell him, make an appointment to see him soon. Have courage.

Say a prayer to our Blessed Mother just before you confide in him, and the fear will fade. God loves you. The Priest loves you as a Priest should, and I love you.

Sir can I have your email add.. I want to talk to and give some advice..pls.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

Sir..i am home now.. I tell myself always that a priest is a selfish.. bec. When they fallin inlove to somebody they go far, far away and forget the feelings.. they also a human being that fallin to somebody heart..but still they know what to do to that feelings... what about the people or the girl that fallin inlove in him.. r they know how to get lost of that..im also one of that girl, don't know how? Stupidmom 7 months ago .

I really have given you all of the advice that you need. There is little that we could write to each other that might benefit you any more than what has already been written. As I have suggested, you should talk with the Priest in question.

Assuming how he will act is just a way to avoid doing what you should do, talk to him. If you cannot find the courage to talk with him, then you should seek out a mental health counselor. They are better prepared to help you to deal with your feelings than I am.

Good luck.

When turboB answered your question you had not told us that the Priest is forty-years-old. In my opinion, given the fact that he has had no active part in the fantasy you have, he should be experienced enough to not feel that it is necessary for him to leave his parish when you tell him about your feelings.

Thank you very much mr. bill1939... I am now out in the community... stupidmom 6 months ago .

I'm in the same situation, but I am not married. I am so attracted to a catholic priest. I cannot stop thinking about him and I only see But the reality is We have no future together.In my wildest dreams I think if only we could be together.

Sometimes I get angry at god because he didn't give that man to me. But that's an issue that I have to deal..

I also know that your culture which is around 84% Roman Catholic venerates Priests and elevates them to something more than human, in a sense, but I assure you they are only human too, and capable of making grave mistakes. I feel revealing your crush to that Priest is not a good thing and only invites trouble. I recommend other Christian counselling and not tempting him to reciprocate at all or "fall" for you, once divulged.

While I do not recommend you dissolve your marriage I would advise you to go home to your husband and renew your intimacy in every way with him and trust and believe that our Lord is the Lord of renewal and can even heal the rockiest marriages. I know the pressures on Filipinas to go abroad and work, as your country cannot provide for all of its' citizens well enough, even in the best of times, and especially considering the current world economic climate.It is a noble thing you are doing for sake of family back home in your country, but it may be destroying your marriage to do so. If you think that having a different man would put the spark back in your life you may be very wrong.

Life may never be perfect here in the flesh and it could end up very tragic for not only the three of you, but children and churchmates as well. If you believe your husband loves you and is loyal and faithful and does not abuse you I would not see why you would want to end it, if he is "on your side" so to speak. It must be difficult for him, as well, to go without your love and intimate affections.

S sacrifice is great and difficult too, in that respect. While marriage is supposed to be a permanent lifetime bond, as God had designed it to be, we do live in a fallen and broken world, but we don't have to choose to make it fall any deeper into depravity or darkness. As far as judging anybody... I believe none of us have the right, as we are all equally guilty of sin.

CHRIST CAME NOT TO CONDEMN THE WORLD, BUT THAT THROUGH HIM, ALL MAY BE SAVED (as many as would believe him and receive him... The one who is the fulfillment of the Law and the Prophets FOR US). If we have broken any of his commandments we have shattered them all and the Bible calls us liars if we say we are sinless. But please don't add to your sins and grieve the Holy Spirit as well as a large number of people whose lives will be terribly impacted by potentially regrettable actions.

God bless you always. ~A Protestant man.

Thank you very much... I called my husband and say sorry to him, eventhough he didn't know that I have sin... its the good thing I must to is change church, not to see him anymore.. im afraid if god tell me what are my sins... stupidmom 7 months ago .

Done.. I am now out.. stupidmom 6 months ago .

OMIGOD! Get out of there fast! Put as much distance between you and him as fast as you can ... this could cause you , him , his family , your family , everyone you know , everyone he knows , your husband , your children and most important God a great deal of pain .

Pray to God for help! .

Thank you newsoul.. done.. I am now out... stupidmom 6 months ago .

Get a grip. If you were single it would still be unwise. But you're MARRIED already?

Just love him from afar and maybe you'll hook up in another lifetime;) .

I hope too.. that today is the last day of my feelings for him... stupidmom 7 months ago .

Maybe he is gay. My cousin married an ex priest. Some people can marry in the church and still be priests.

This love may pass...just that you may respect him.....like any amazing person. If you are not happily married...deal with that.

A priest is a gay?....but any way thanks for the concern.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

Stop seeing him; start seeing your husband. Focus on whom you promised to focus on.

I cannot see my husband bec. Wer separate country.. im a ofw.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

But im always calling everyday.. stupidmom 7 months ago .

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