Why do so many married men get drunk almost every night instead of getting intimate with their wife?

I think that men and women should try looking decent and nice for their partner no matter how many years they have been together. Sure they don't have to look like a freakin model or look good 24-7, but looking nice for each other keeps the spark alive, makes both parties feel confident about themselves , and both people are happier. Looking nice for each other lets both of you know you still care about each other.....Now, with your wife, there may be an underlying issue as to why she is like that and it may not be "laziness"....is she depressed?

Have there been any issues b/w you and her? Issues with family? Jobs?

Have you let yourself go and she doesn't feel like looking sexy for u? Does she not love you anymore? The reasons may be endless....you could try talking to her, but don't tell her shes ugly and that she is repulsive....just ask er if shes ok and if she wants to talk about something since you sense something is wrong and it worries you.....try asking her if she wants to go to therapy because thats what healthy couples sometimes do.....you can even try "exercise dates" where you 2 go work out together, that will help you 2 bond, look good, and have fun!

Its only natural for a couple to want their "other half" to take good care of themselves and look good, so no, you're not in the wrong here. However, its a known fact that people tend to "let themselves go" when they marry. They feel that they are secure and as a result, think that because their partner married them, he/she should love them for who they are, and they shouldn't have to make as much of an effort with their appearance anymore.

It never fails to amaze me. I would hate to think that this would happen to either myself or my partner if we were to get married. Also, are there any children involved?

Sometimes when children come along, "looking good" is not a woman's top priority anymore. Tell her how you feel. Tell her that although she hasn't changed personality-wise, physically shes not the woman you fell in love with any more.

Giver her a wake-up call. She may see the light and try to get back into shape. If she really refuses to "shape-up" however, you may have to live with this for many years.

You don't seem to be prepared to do that. But I would give her some more chances - don't throw an otherwise good marriage away, for the sake of her appearance. It sounds unfair and shallow.

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