Why is sex and losing your virginity such a big deal?

It's not a big deal except for the memories that will last a lifetime. I remember my first time when I was 16 and it was a boring and uneventful as you mentioned. Plus he was a jerk off womanizer who just wanted to win and for me to give him money.

Marty...sigh....It's likely just women that would prefer their memories of the first time to be better. The big deal is only the illusion that society has created in your head, like the illusion of xmas, birthdays etc...Somewhere along the line you heard or read or got the feeling that it was important. I don't listen to societie's crap, I do and feel how I want.

You can do the same.

I think it's just important that you know how YOU feel about it. Have it clear in a space in your mind and stick to that. If its something you wanna do with someone you care about, a deep level of connection or something then go for it.

If you feel like its something you want to share with a lot of people follow that too! Forget what others are saying because ultimately it's your feelings that matter, and the first time really isn't that big a deal, enjoy it, be open and trusting and it won't be a big deal.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.