Wife 20 yrs left the kids and I. Mvd n wth a mn she dtd 23 yrs ago, but only has bn talking 2 4 a month. Has cheated on hm wth me nonstop?

Aww man, my ex tried to do the same after I threw him out for cheating. He told me he still wanted a live with me and even asked me out on dates when the flirting for bed did not work. Yet he lives with her and has for awhile.

We were married for 19 yrs, so I do understand your pain. Trust me, when you use the word no, it stings to you, but sooner or later she will get the message. She screwed up and broke the vows.

She choose to move along and leave you and those innocent kids behind. Pretend you just do not care for her any more, cry or feel sad in your room where no one can see, but its time to move on. You deserve much more than half a relationship.

Wow, that is really really messed up. I think she needs some kind of help. It sounds like she is not thinking straight.

Does she drink or use drugs? The reason I ask is becuase it doesn't sound like her grasp of reality is very strong. I think you should get her alone and then ask her this point blank -- if she is drinking or using drugs.

Tell her you are really confused by the way she says one thing and then does another. Try to get her some help -- for both of your sanity.

Dude.... move on... the woman is using you and using the other guy too. I suspect she probably even has a third guy in the wings... who knows.. she is cheating on you too, not just the other guy, but you seem to be letting it happen. You need to emotionally seperate yourself from this woman, as she is holding you back be keeping you emotionally tied to her for sexual reasons.

She will never pick either one of you, and I think you know it.

Leave her, take your kids, and find a better woman. If you stick with this woman not only are you wasting your time, you will likely end up having no relationship with your kids because they will blame you for staying with her. You don't owe her anything!

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