Would be upset if your best friend starting dating your ex-husband/wife?

I would be upset. I would see it as a betrayal. It's against the girl code, you never date your friends ex.

Everyone knows that. :).

If I had an ex, they are an ex for a reason. I wouldn't want them at my birthday party, on double dates or to see them smooching all over my friend. If you have children from the relationship, then yes you have to remain in contact.

But I don't have a current relationship with any of my exes, it's just too weird. I'm friendly if I see them, but I don't go out of my way to hang out or call them up.

Actually, I would more surprised than anything. I imagine that if she was my best friend, when the marriage started falling apart, she would have been the person that I was confiding in. She would already know all of his faults, (whether true or imaginary), his idiosyncrasies, his good and bad points.

If my ex-husband and best friend started dating, I don't think I could really feel comfortable in a social situation with them, only because it makes it awkward for other people, regardless of what the relationship among the three of us. Casual acquaintances probably wouldn't know the particulars of the situation and would be inclined to ask about it. As well, I don't think I would be able to share secrets and life events with her since she is now sharing with my ex.

If I wanted him to know, I'd tell him. So I believe I would lose my best friend because of it.

They are humans maybe the find at least that what an earlier partner not can give.

If my opinion doesn't count here, then it doesn't count anywhere. Here's my story in a nutshell: I had a friend that I grew up with since 3rd grade. Actually, I was close with her entire family.

When I got married, this family threw me a bridal shower, as this friend was the maid of honor at my wedding. When I became pregnant 5 yrs later she threw me a baby shower. I was married for 15 years (with him for 17 including dating - he was the only man I was ever with - soul mates and all of that).

We were the couple that would NEVER split. We never went anywhere without the other, from vacations to buying underwear. We talked on the phone 5 times a day.

He worked an hour (1 way) from home and I would drive to meet him for lunch at least once a week, just because we couldn't get enough of each other. I can count on one hand the number of arguments we had over the years and we never went to bed angry. We slept in the same bed right up until the day he left.At the ame time, I had this needy friend that wanted basically the same from me - couldn't do anything or make a decision without talking to me about it.

She got married the same month I did and was married as long as I was, but her relationhip was the complete opposite of mine. They pretty much hated each other and only stayed together for the kids. I felt sorry for her all the time so I always opened my home to her anytime she wanted to get away.

Needless to say, she was with us a lot. I'm sure you can all see where this is going, and you can rest assured this is only the tip of the iceberg. Long story short, My husband had a mid-life crisis and unbeknownst to me, began "crying on her shoulder" for comfort.

I went from having no idea my husband was even having problems to him packing up and moving to him "dating" my best friend in about 4 weeks. I was so devestated from the double betrayal that I attempted suicide. I called them to say goodbye and neither one of them tried to stop me.

If it weren't for a close friend I would be dead now. I think I am qualified to have an opinion on this topic. The moral of the story is this: Divorce is bad enough, but when that other person is your best friend, the PAIN, the HURT is too much to bear.

It has been 4 years since all this happened and I still cry at least once a week. Oh, and did I mention I have been diagnosed with a chronic illness that has disabled me but I am too young to qualify for gov. Disability, so me and my children have to live entirely off of alimony and child support?

I think I would be hurt. It's part of being human. I guess things will never be the same with my buddy or ex-spouse, but I think it would be better to avoid them both so as to move on with life.

I hope this helps out. Peace!

I think it really depends on the situation. If I were living happily with my partner/new spouse then it's okay for me but I would expect that my best friend would tell me or ask me if I approve or not. And most probably, since I have a new spouse and we're living happily then I would approve them.

I believe in destiny and maybe they're destined for each other so I wouldn't stop them.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.