Do we need to change the way we designate relationships -- mother, grandfather, cousin, etc?

Do we need to change the way we designate relationships -- mother, grandfather, cousin, etc. A woman just acted as a surrogate mother for her daughter and gave birth to twin boys. This has, no doubt, happened between sisters or possibly step-children, URL1 makes your head hurt to sort out the relationships (I recall the song, "I am my own grandpa"). Is there a scheme that makes more sense or is there one planned, or can you think of one... Asked by Thannisan 51 months ago Similar questions: change designate relationships mother grandfather cousin Society.

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Well, I think you develop what works for you Within the adoption and infertility "world", there is already terminology in place. The titles "mom" and "dad" are reserved for the people who raise the children (i.e. , the people who fill the traditional mom and dad roles, regardless of their genetic connection to the child).

If you consider that "mom" and "dad" are titles that one should have to earn, the situation is somewhat simplified. The rest of your relatives' titles depend on the their relation to the parents. For example, in the situation you described, the "surrogate" would be "Grandma" (or whatever word for grandma they use).

I didn't read the article you mention, but I'd guess that the Grandmother was actually a gestational carrier rather than a surrogate. A surrogate is a woman whose own egg(s) are fertilized with the donor's sperm, and then she carries the child(ren). She provides both eggs and uterus.

Therefore, a surrogate is also a biological parent. A gestational carrier is someone who carries a child created from someone else's egg. She provides her uterus, but not the egg.So, for example, the woman in your example may have had embryos created from her daughter's eggs and son-in-law's sperm transferred to her uterus.

A gestational carrier is not a biological parent. Of course, I don't know the specifics of the case you're referencing, but I'd guess if a woman is old enough to be a grandmother, chances are her eggs might be too old to create viable embryos. Maybe not, but probably.

So I'd guess in this case that it was either her daughter's eggs, or the eggs of a donor that were used. How's that for making your head spin: A woman gives birth to children carried for her daughter but created from some 3rd woman's eggs! In adoption (or surrogacy) where there is a biological connection separate from the family connection, the term usually used is "bio-mom" (for the biological mother) or "bio-dad" or "bio-siblings".

This is in contrast to the people who are actually your mom and dad and siblings, in terms of who are the people who are raising you. It always surprises me how much emphasis people place on the biological connection. If you adopt a child, you don't think of them as "my adopted child".

No, they're just "my child". And hopefully, the adopted child would never call you "my adoptive mom"...no way! You're just "mom".

One of the rudest (and most commonly said things) you can say to someone who has adopted is "whose his real mom? " It implies that the act of caring for and raising a child is incidental...not enough to make you a real parent.So I say, no, we don't need a new way to designate names of relatives. We just call people by the roles they fill, regardless of their biological connection.

Sure, the gifts of bio-parents, donor parents, and gestational carriers shouldn't be undervalued...they are amazing people whether they have donated eggs, sperm, uterus, or placed their child for adoption. Their role should be recognized and treated as the blessing it is. But it doesn't change who the REAL mom or dad is...they're the people raising the child :) .

It would seem to me that whomever's seed is inside the woman belongs to that person. So, in this case, the baby would call her grandma. I was going to carry a child for my sister and I would have preferred that her baby would call me Aunt, and I wouldn't think of having it any other way.

The Richness Of Life A son makes a father. (A daughter makes a mother. A son makes a mother.

A daughter makes a father. Whatever. ) A person is a son, a grandson, a cousin, a husband, a father, a godfather, a restaurant manager, and a bank customer.

Those are some of his roles in society. Each of such roles depends on a contextual relationship between two specific entities. That’s why "a son makes a father": a man cannot assume the role of father until the son is born, and the father-son relationship is specific to him and his son.(Now, there is a statement in Buddhism: "You are your own father."

Basically, whatever you think, say and do today are the seeds for what you are tomorrow. Interesting... Also, I happen to know that the relationship between me and m is specific and personal, therefore I wouldn’t impose it on anyone. ) It makes your head hurt because you try to think of all the roles and relationships of a person at the same time.As I said, each role depends on a contextual relationship between two specific entities.

With this in mind, we may not need to change the way we designate relationships -- we simply handle them one at a time..

Nope, because the majority is still correct. Rarely do you have a scenario like the one you are talking about so I think it would be a mistake to redefine family roles. If anything we need to go back to traditional roles..

": but we also need to consider how the grandmother will think of the children... she may call them her grandchildren but won't she really think of them as her children. With surrogacy and cloining and who knows what coming along, don't we really need to start thinking of a new way to identify relationships?

My mother married her brother but got pregnant by my grandfather who then impregnated me! I'm confused. " "Seeing the dead: I'd like opinions or thoughts on my mother saying that she saw my deceased grandfather." "Is my sister's grandchild my child's second cousin?

Where can I find an exposition of family relationships?

My mother married her brother but got pregnant by my grandfather who then impregnated me! I'm confused.

Seeing the dead: I'd like opinions or thoughts on my mother saying that she saw my deceased grandfather.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.