How can I talk to my boyfriend about spending his money more wisely? It bothers me. We've been dating 4 months?

Hmm. This is a tough one. Is he really that clueless, or is he being a bit of a leech?

Unfortunately there are more than a few people out there who will happily take advantage of kind and generous people, especially where money is concerned. If you always cover him, he might be just, well, milking it. If he's genuinely clueless with his money, next time this happens, perhaps consider turning down his offer to eat with a "well, are we covered for (x, y, z) coming up?" or if he asks you to cover him for something, say you have already promised to help a friend out with (something big and long-term).

This will make him freak out a bit, but open things up for a conversation about financial planning. If he wants to figure things out, he will ask for help. Otherwise he will probably throw a fit and try to get the $ somewhere.

There comes a point in time when you can't be his crutch. Good luck!

Do yourself a favor, dump him and RUN!. S spending is going to make YOU go broke, he'll ask you more and more often to cover this, cover that. He won't change, he'll spend all his $$$$, then he'll spend all of yours.

Unless you want to be his "Sugar Momma" RUN! .

If this was ONE incident then yes I can see that situation happening, but if you are noticing it becoming a pattern then I would worry and seriously consider making a decision. My personal situation with a person that really was looking for me to make things easier for him was a 15-year relationship with a man with four children that started with situations like what you are mentioning and escalated to divorce (initiated by me of course, and fought by him for over a year because his money train was leaving). I ended the so-called "relationship" having THREE jobs to his NONE (always an excuse as to why he "could not find" a job), having to file bankruptcy because his children were now on MY insurance because he and his ex-wife were both losers and had no jobs so I covered them and got stuck with $16,000 in HIS kids medical bills as well.

That man was literally sucking the life out of me financially AND mentally. It was awful. While yours might not go that far, he also may realize how easy it is to make you "cave in" and help him and start making his using a little bigger each time.

Stand your ground and watch it close, and please get out if you see things worsening. No one deserves to be treated like a human ATM. It's awful how people mistake kindness for weakness, but it happens all to often!

I wish you well GOOD LUCK! .

To save the bullsh*t..depend on yourself. If he was a real man he would make sure you get fed well..anyone in that matter ...people should not be cheap when it comes down to food.

Money is the first and most common reasons why married couples divorce. That you are already having money arguments says much about how long this relationship will last. Or you could end it now and save yourself the grief.As to your question, no, you're not about to get him to do it differently.

He doesn't want you to act like a mom...but is treating you like that. He needs to write down a budget...and see how much money is free money to spend.

All you can do is let him know that he should probably start spending his money more wisely. If he gets upset, then sweetie you need to find a new man. It sounds like you are smart with knowing there are limits when and when not to spend money.

Someone like that will only bring you down. If he's not receptive to spending money more wisely, it's time to move on.

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