Is there anything I can do about the other soccer parents (from my daughter's team) who constantly yell during games?

It's driving some of the other parents crazy, and I don't think it's good for the girls, but I'm not sure there's anything we can do about it! Asked by Rickisgirl 52 months ago Similar questions: soccer parents daughter's team constantly yell games Sports & Recreation > Soccer.

Similar questions: soccer parents daughter's team constantly yell games.

As a mother of 3 athletes, I know exactly where you are coming from. I have seen yelling parents, yelling coaches and nasty umpires. Some seasons, at signup, part of the paperwork we submitted and signed was a parental code of conduct.

This really did help. We, the parents agreed to refrain from outbursts and coaching from the stands. Clapping, cheering, of course were allowed.

The coach has to insist at the parent meeting, that the negative comments just confuse the kids. After every game, the coaches have the little pep talk to encourage the kids after their win or loss, and most likely the parents huddle around also. This would be the opportunity for the coach to kindly remind the parents of his/her mission and goals for the team, and how the parents must set a good example for the kids and it starts with the good conduct.

Those kids are always looking up into the stands for the parents approval. A simple thumbs up sign can really brighten them up and keep them going. The coach certainly needs the appreciation, too.

I tell you, it sometimes feels like a losing battle, though, as some parents lose all their self control at their kids' athletic events. If you are unable to succeed at making a change, you may have to move on to another athletic association. I didn't have that option.

I have often thought that these parents that make such a spectacle of themselves, should audition for the bud light Real men of genius commercials - like the overzelous foul ball catcher. Can't you just fantasize one about some of the overzelous parents? :-) Some years that's how I made it through the season, pull up an armchair and watch the spectators.

Here is what we have done My husband and I have taken this position as coach/manager and put pressure on coaches to do the same when we have not been coaching. We send a letter or email to each family explaining that it is our policy to teach these kids good sportsmanship. It is our expectation that all parents and family members will back us up in our attempts to convey this lesson.It is our job as coaches to act upon any calls or action on the field by players or referees.

Parental involvement during play will not be allowed. Negative cheering from anyone on our side will not be tolerated. We will initially ask people to tone it down, but if it continues, we will not play the child of the parents who are behaving in an unsportsmanlike manner.

If any of the kids follow the negative example of their parents, they will not play. It's harsh but sets the expectation clearly. A few have argued that their kids have the right to play.

We have explained in those circumstances that the kids can play if the negative parent stays away from the games. Most leagues now have enforceable rules about parental cheering in order to back the coaches. Of course, you have to have a coach who is willing to take a stand.

If you don't, then I would find another team. Good luck. Parents don't seem to realize what a downer it is for their kids to hear that kind of nonsense.

Talk to the coach if you think the things that are being yelled are detrimental to the girls, you must speak up. Yelling and chattering, is normal during sporting events and some of it is to be expected. You and your girls need to develope a thicker skin regarding this.

However, if mean spirited or picking on one girl versus another (for instance) jeering is occuring, it is not only poor sportsmanship but can cause long standing psychological problems for young impressionable kids. I would talk to your coach, and ask him/her to specifically deal with the parents that are doing this. That should be enough.

If you confront the parents directly, it will reflect negatively on your child in the long run, which is exactly what you don't want. Another thing you could do if talking to the coach doesn't help, is write a letter to the parents, outlining your concerns. Make sure to keep it friendly and not attacking.

Don't sign the letter, just sign off by saying, "the parent of your daughter's teammate" or something to that effect. Good luck .

Poppet! Said: 1 It's gotta be from the coach(es), don't you think? Otherwise you will have parent on parent, I have the feeling.

Have the coaches addressed it? .

Otherwise you will have parent on parent, I have the feeling. Have the coaches addressed it?

2 I would love to know this. Not that we have any more sports to attend where there is yelling (only skating, which, thankfully, has to be quiet). It always amazed me how ignorant, foul-mouthed, immature some of the parents could be - even to kids on the same team as their own child!

One thought I had is that you or the coaches could ask the referee association to ask their officials/umps to make an announcement before every game starts - telling spectators to keep it down - and especially no foul language or demeaning words, or they will be asked to leave the field.

I would love to know this. Not that we have any more sports to attend where there is yelling (only skating, which, thankfully, has to be quiet). It always amazed me how ignorant, foul-mouthed, immature some of the parents could be - even to kids on the same team as their own child!

One thought I had is that you or the coaches could ask the referee association to ask their officials/umps to make an announcement before every game starts - telling spectators to keep it down - and especially no foul language or demeaning words, or they will be asked to leave the field.

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