Would you as a father or mother subject your children to what your so called loving father has done?

Right, because we’re always taught to blame the other person and throw the dad under the bus. So I had another chose to make for my daughter and that was not to play the victim. Regardless of what her father does, she nor I will be victimized by his actions.

At an early age, I learned from my mother that no matter what my father did she never disrespected him in front of us and never allowed us to either. She always said to us no matter what that’s your father and you are to respect him as such. I guess that’s old school?

I guess my mom knew there would come a time when her children would form their own opinions about their father’s actions and confront him on our own accord. And eventually I did and appreciate that I could honestly say they were my feelings and not my mother’s. Now with God, prayer, and humility I have a good relationship with my pops.

At the end of the day, regardless of how “no good” you think your baby daddy may be, your child still needs and wants him to be apart of his/her life. So instead of taking the credit on Father’s Day (which is a sign that you are hurting and seeking validation) try sending him a card or if nothing else say thank you for giving me my son(s)/daughter(s). Doing that will not take away from who you are and what you have done for your children.

Fathers are just as important as mothers, so let this be the one day we release the anger and allow grace to reside. President Obama put it well: “Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded … that family is the most important. And we are called to recognize and honor how critical every father is to that foundation.

They are teachers and coaches. They are mentors and role models.