Would you attend a visitation and/or the funeral of your ex-husband's mother that passed if you had been close to her when you were married?

Yes you should do it for your son. If you can't get along with the family then go off hours for a private viewing. This is really a personal question for here as your relationship with her is who you go to respect so going after hours is OK.

Depends on what terms I'm on with the family. If it ended badly and my presence would cause an issue no. I'd send my son with my ex-husband or another trusted family member and send flowers myself.

There's no reason he shouldn't be there, but respect for her family would be not causing an issue. If the family liked me and the marriage didn't end badly, sure I'd go.

If the bond remained strong even after you divorced her son, and the surviving family members were welcoming of the closeness that you had for their mother, then there should be nothing wrong in attending the funeral of the dearly departed. If, however, you were only close to her during the marriage to her son and then a passive distancing developed, or if the family was not to keen on your continued relationship with her in life, then you may, out of respect for her survivors, stay away. Remember, you do not have to be present at her funeral to honor her memory.

If you cannot attend for whatever reason, take a moment, light a candle, say a prayer and recall some of the kind memories that you have of her.

The tricky thing is that funerals are for the living, not the dead. Would it upset other family members, and distract them during this vulnerable time? If so, I would not attend.

I would visit the cemetery later and pay my respects, reflect, and grieve. I would not want everyone to walk away from the funeral feeling like I had shown up just to cause trouble. If my son wanted to attend, though, I would drop him off and pick him up.

If the rest of the family would be okay with it, I would be there in a heartbeat. If you love someone, it doesn't matter if they're still legally your family or not. They are your loved one, your chosen family, and your friend.

I think it would be a welcome thing to the family to see that divorce didn't drive a wedge between you and her, and that you still want to remember and cherish her. It's comforting for the family to see that their loved one was loved by many. So, I guess it comes down to the ex-in-laws.

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