Have you, as an adult, ever instinctively disliked a child? If so, did you feel guilty about feeling this way about the child?

I had a friend whose kids were totally out of control. I could not stand to be around them for long, and she didn't discipline them at all. One day I asked her little boy to stop jumping on the couch I was sitting on, and he said "This is my house, and you can go home if you don't like it."

I did just that. I said "I'm sorry, I can't stand your kids, and I can't stand you for letting them turn into these little monsters. " and I never talked to her again.

Years later, I heard that that little boy had killed himself, and I felt guilty because I did not try to help him. Maybe I could have spent some time with him, tried to make him see how his behavior was hurting him. People said he was so out of control when he was a teenager that he was expelled from school several times, and his mother and father finally threw him out when he was 16.

He was on the streets, alone, and decided he did not want to live anymore. At 17, he took a bottle of pills and died. To this day, I blame his parents for his death, because they did not teach that child any self respect or self discipline at all.

My mom did foster care for many children when she was alive. Of course I was already grown at the time, and she had a young girl that reminded me so much of myself. Every time I looked at her, I saw me as a little girl.It wasn't that I disliked her, it was all the horrible memories that were stirred up when I was around her.

I don't know if you could call this instinctive or not, but I quickly grow to dislike children who don't treat things with care. If they're touching my things and I'm worried about something being broken, I do kind of have to act. However, if it's not my stuff, I shut up and hide it the best I can.

Even if you're telling a child "don't" or doing something they probably won't be happy about (like taking something away from them), I've found that having a really big and friendly smile on your face the whole time really helps. And yes, I've found that as long as I keep smiling like crazy, the child and the parents generally don't think there's a problem.

I don't know if I could instinctively not like a kid but I have friends whose kids I can't stand. Reasons=out of control, selfish, self-centered and bossy. I always riened in my kids with others and I think others should do the same.

I am not here to discipline your children while you sit there and watch.

Unfortunately, I have felt this way, and yes, felt guilty about it. Luckily, I was able to realize I was the adult and could hide my feeling and let the child be the parents problem.

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