I dont' give my husband affection like I used too and he needs me to do so how do I start again?

Remember why you fell in love with him and go from there.

When people stop offering or accepting affection in their love relationship, they usually have a pretty good darned reason not to. Often, it is our REACTIVITY that is the culprit. When we are reactive (angry, resentful, bored, etc) we do not want to offer or receive affection from our partner.

I'd recommend a very good book on this issue, by David Schnarch, called 'Intimacy and Desire'.

I cant really gove you an answer,but what I can give you is a way to a solution, that is you have to find the anglde that you relate to or peaks your interest. A good paper is one that people get drawn into because it reaches them ln some way.As for me WW11 to me, I think of the holocaust and the effect it had on the survivors, their families and those who stood by and did nothing until it was too late.