I have been separated for more than one year now, and has been trying to potty train my three year old son?

I learned in my anatomy and physiology classes that children can't be potty trained until around age 2, because that's when nerve development reaches those regions of their bodies. That is, at birth our nerves are not fully developed and are still growing. Thus, before age 2 children do not have the sensory capability to feel the need to go to the toilet.

See the quote below: "Stimulation of “stretch receptors� Within the bladder wall initiates urination. Simultaneous contraction of the detrusor muscle of the bladder and relaxation of the internal and external sphincters result in emptying of the bladder.

Children less than 2 years of age cannot maintain bladder control because of insufficient nerve development." My wife trained trained our two girls and one boy by sitting them down on the potty trainer (later on the toilet) at the times when they were most likely to have a sufficiently full bladder which they could empty. She would sit them down after their last milk bottle at night, first thing in the morning, and periodically throughout the day after sufficient fluid intake.

I remember telling my wife to teach them toilet terminology, so that our kids would understand and be able to communicate their needs on the matter. Our kids soon learned to recognized their sensations and communicate them to us. With continued guidance and help, our kids quickly became toilet independent.

I do not have any kids of my own, but was a preschool teacher for a few years. What you have to do it communicate to your son how good it will be for him to use the bathroom. I would make sure you make using the bathroom a positive URL1 many times I would see parents scold and punish their children for wetting at school or nap, and it didn't change a thing.

The best thing you can do is reminders, said in a pleasant and encouraging tone, along with rewards for accomplishing using the restroom. By the time he is trained he won't need rewards he'll just go That's my opinion only though.

It took a little bit of time for my son to become potty trained, he is 5 years old now and he was trained before he was three years old. Boys do tend to take longer than girls to potty train, and at night they are more likely to be bed wetters which pediatricians will assure you is normal so there is no reason for concern. With my son incentives helped.

If he wanted a special snack or to watch his favorite movie he needs to stay dry through the morning and then again we would do this in the afternoon. It's really up to the parent to ask your child to go to the bathroom. Take a couple of weeks, every 30 minutes or every hour take your son into the bathroom and have him try to go potty.

You can float cheerios or fruit loops in the toilet for him to aim at which might make it more fun for him. Or you can start by having him sit on a potty chair (make sure it is the kind with the shield for little boys or this will get messy). It takes time, just remember it will happen and as long as you remain patient your son will eventually get the hang of it.

If every time you take him to the potty it ends up being frustrating he won't want anything to do with learning. You know what I mean? Good luck!

If so, have the teachers help you out in training him. They could give you some pointers on potty training. Last year, I worked at a special education school where we trained 9 boys in the class.

We would tell the parents to send them in with a pullup and underwear on the bus (they came to school on a bus every day) and then we would take them to the bathroom when they arrived and we took off the pullup. Sometimes there were accidents but they were all potty trained within a couple of months. We put the pullup back on them for the ride home.

The boys were able to tell us when they had to go to the bathroom. Also, it help that there were so many of them in the class together. One boy started to wear underwear one day and then slowly the rest wanted to go to the bathroom too like their classmate.

It helps to have classmates or peers as role models. Good luck!

I have several friends who swear by the potty-training method they learned from Dr. Phil. It may seem a little weird at first, but it REALLY works. If followed correctly, you can potty train a child in a day or two.

I've seen this with my own eyes. The basic premise is using fun things the child can relate to as motivating tools along with using dolls or action figures to model correct procedures. Then, after the child has it down, throw a party for them and make a big deal about how great they did.

Remember, to make it fun and memorable for your child so they have a positive association. NEVER scold or punish the child when he has an accident. This site gives you the step by step procedures to follow: drphil.com/articles/article/264/ Good luck!

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YMMV, here's what didn't work for us: at age 2.5, our pediatrician recommended we make her sit on the toilet for 5 minutes. If nothing happens, she's done. An hour later, back to the bathroom for another 5 minutes.No yelling, no spanking, no coaching "here, try this..." none of that.

She can sit there for 5 minutes or until she's done. Up to her.No joy. Here's what worked for us: peer pressure.

We had a friend of hers over for a weekend. The friend climbed up on the toilet, took care of business, put her big girl panties back on and was done. My daughter said "That looked pretty easy.

I can do that." pure serendipity. YMMV.

I have a two and a half year old son, and for potty training him, we had a 'naked weekend' Which, with boys is easy because it's obvious when they need to go- usually their little thing starts to get hard. And, being naked you can always keep track of when he might have to go- or sometimes he starts to go- rush to the bathroom (or keep the child potty in the room you're in) applaud when he goes on the potty, and keep praising him. If he doesn't like the potty, maybe try giving him a coloring book and have him sit for awhile- we did this the first time, and my son was so concerned with coloring, he didn't notice he was going.It really did work- after the weekend my son never wanted diapers again.

And, I plan on doing this with my second son when he's old enough. Just be patient. If he really seems disinterested, don't push it, but do talk to his pediatrician to see if they can offer any advice.

Hope I helped a little.

I've found out that boys are much harder to potty train than girls. They don't mind being dirty as much as girls. Give it time, let him go naked so that clothes aren't a problem, lots of positive reinforcement... A cheerio works well for our boy to help with the "aiming" part.

Don't worry, you're not alone.

Try a ball of toilet paper in the water tell him its a boat and he has to sink it if he sinks it he wins a prize worked with my boys.

I don't think potty training has to do with having a certain sex "model" in the house. My wife didn't do anything differently than I with our boys. In fact, we started them by sitting down on a training potty first.

Standing/aiming came later. The first thing you might want to consider is that a three-year-old might not be ready to be potty trained. Physically, their bladder might not be big enough.

Psychologically, they might not be motivated. Be patient. Be consistant.

Talk with him. Encourage him. It will all work out.

I'm basically in agreement with jcaz. I recall my own toilet training, and what didn't work (like negative reinforcement, and pretending it wasn't an issue). I know what worked for me, but don't know what works for others.

I would have responded well to an extemely anatomical explanation, and eventually figured it out on my own. Your mileage may vary. I'd try explaining the quote jcaz used, but in plain language, like 'your body needs to do certain things, and it will tell you when'.

I'd reinforce it by sending him to the toilet at regular intervals, whether he uses it or not, so as to get into a routine. 'Toilet is just a thing you do, before you go out, after you come in', so on. I might also use other techniques to heighten his own body awareness - things like toddler versions of tai chi, yoga, stretching and articulation exercises.

What worked with my three sons, was they wanted to make me happy. So I would say, "Oh, I have to pee, will you go for me? " and they would.

They really though they were helping me. Not, "come on go pee for Mommy" but, "Mommy has to potty, will you go potty for me please? " .... And they were so proud of themselves, doing something so BIG and important for Mommy....boys are cool!

The rewarding I used with hugs and kisses and "Thank you I feel so much better! " after awhile they caught on but by than it was all said and done! " He is three is old enough, and when you get the diapers, have him go and get a diaper and than he has to find a place to be changed- I made it a bit difficult for mine to actually be changed.By putting the diapers in a different spot ( in the bathroom!

) and saying you go get them, by the time they would run around and finally find them in the bathroom MORE often than not they would just pee in the toilet! :) Good luck and seriously no child goes to kindergarten in diapers, it will happen in his own time. Lots of praise, no stress and patience!

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I'm not a parent either but I would like to try and give you some insight if anything helps. I do not believe saying nothing will be of any help to you. "Potty Training" Well I have got to tell you I really dislike this word "Potty" where did anyone come up with such a slang for a latrine.

Learning to use all the facilities in the bathroom,.. this is probably something you or I couldn't remember how we learned. (I know I can't remember) . However, you know what, it might be important to have a mail roll model around to encourage your son to use all the facilities properly.

Even a older cousin or a friend of the family you can explicitly trust . As the child gets even older I think eventually the child will learn, they just need some good old fashion TLC. Hope everything works out.

Regards ~X EDIT: I hope I didn't turn you off with my response but I believe parenting has suffered greatly in the recent past and parents need all the help they can get. I will try and cull my responses dramatically in the future.

Im not a parent with a child, Although I did help to raise a kid through his potty training. And boy was he stubborn. Especially at the age of 3, they jus don't have a care in the world and think its funny to pee in his pants.

Anyways, one way I can recommend if you havent already tried... is really scolding him/giving him lickens(spankings). You have to sit him down and talk to him, literally try to explain it. If spankings/talknig doesn't work... let him sit there with shit in his pants... once it starts to burn, he'll realize that he needs to start using the bathroom.(this is the option we went with... tough love.) the other option is rewarding him.

Give him toys, and such for using the potty... a snack of chocolate or anything else he really likes. This is beneficially for you and him, but also can back fire if you spoil him to much. Good luck!

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