If you are "shy" in "real life", are you shy in Askville?

I am more shy in real life... ...I know. That might be kind of hard to believe! But I don't think "shy" is the word for it, so much as reserved.

And that might not even be the word for it. Detached? Okay, I give up!

My husband would tell you I'm "shy" sometimes, and other times, the most assertive woman he's ever known (I like to keep him guessing! ). Of course he is THE single most extroverted person on the planet.

You have never met a more people person than him. He loves everybody, talks up everybody, is interested in everybody. He can walk into a room full of strangers, and emerge with several business cards.

Not just "token" cards, either. They'll be people that he actually will develop relationships with. I am his polar opposite.

If I walk into a room full of strangers, I am lucky to find one or two people to engage with, and the odds of us getting close enough to exchange personal contact information are about the same as the odds that the asteroid will hit today. Yet, I'm comfortable with people, and like people, and of the two of us, I'm the more inclined to build the lasting relationships, and put in the effort to keep them afloat and active. I think it comes down to the fact that I am very selective about who I spend time with.

I have a small circle of close, intimate friends. Then I have a larger circle of associates and acquaintances, but it's still rather small. I like it that way, as my time is precious to me, and I want to control how much of it I spend in interactions, and with whom.

That is one reason I love Askville so much. Great people, and I consider many my friends, but we get to control our degree of interaction here, which suits me just fine. When I'm engaged, I still get to decide "how much" of me to give.

I can immerse, and give 100% to a certain question, person, or situation; or I can remain mostly detached, and an observer. You can't do that with real life. If a friend calls, and you're up to your eyeballs in a report, you still want to pick up the phone.

There's a greater obligation to be responsive, outside of Askville. So, no, I am not "less" shy here, than in real life, but I'm not really shy in real life, either, just very selective and discriminating. The Askville Community is so engaging, I think they bring a lot of us out, whether we're shy or not!

Goldie .

1 I would not describe myself as shy, but if you knew me IRL, you might think I was. I'm introverted, and extremely reticent. I don't say very much at all, which is why people tend to be surprised when I have something to say.

I'm looser and snarkier on line, because I get to write rather than talk. I can always go back and change a word or a phrase when I am writing, but once you blurt something out, it's out forever.

I would not describe myself as shy, but if you knew me IRL, you might think I was. I'm introverted, and extremely reticent. I don't say very much at all, which is why people tend to be surprised when I have something to say.

I'm looser and snarkier on line, because I get to write rather than talk. I can always go back and change a word or a phrase when I am writing, but once you blurt something out, it's out forever.

2 Ditto Ichtheo. Not shy, but circumspect face to face. On the ether, no holds barred.

Ditto Ichtheo. Not shy, but circumspect face to face. On the ether, no holds barred.

3 I'm shy in certain settings, generally though, I am ok around people. If I have to present something in front of a group, I'm fine. Put me in a room with people that I don't know...or don't know well, (like husband's company picnic or other events) I struggle with meeting people.

Once I am ok being there, I can do ok...but I am still very nervous.

I'm shy in certain settings, generally though, I am ok around people. If I have to present something in front of a group, I'm fine. Put me in a room with people that I don't know...or don't know well, (like husband's company picnic or other events) I struggle with meeting people.

Once I am ok being there, I can do ok...but I am still very nervous.

4 I am terrifired of strangers and crowds....but online it is not so scary so I can be more open and speak freer .

I am terrifired of strangers and crowds....but online it is not so scary so I can be more open and speak freer.

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