If you have a next door neighbor who you really aren't close to, just wave or say hello in passing, and you notice she is getting real?

If I have a next door neighbor who I am not very close with but just sort of an acquaintance and I have observed that she looks emaciated I would pay her a visit maybe during weekends. I will bake or cook something for her so that I have a reason for coming over. Of course, it would be best before I do that to give her a call and ask if I can come over.

And if she says it is OK then that will be the time for me to go and bring her something. No, I will not ask her if she needs anything. I will just talk to her about anything and everything.

Maybe if she will be comfortable enough talking with me she will be more open the next time I we are going to talk. I don't want to give the impression that I am minding her business because the truth is I have no right to interfere or ask anything about her life for I respect her privacy. But it would be different if she will know that I am just a concerned friend and neighbor.

Maybe if she will think that way she will be the one to open up with me of whatever problems she has. If through our conversations I will get to know her better and I will be assured that she is OK then I will leave it at that. As much as possible I don't want to be asking personal questions so that she will not become offended and she will not think that I am snooping around.

I wouldn't do anything. After all, I don't know why she's losing weight. It's easy to jump to conclusions.

Perhaps she's just sick. Perhaps she has some kind of medical condition that makes her lose weight. Perhaps you just haven't really noticed her weight before, and she's naturally thin (there are people out there like this.) Bringing it up when one of these is the case would be awkward.

I would, however, try to get to know her. That way, if there were other warning signs -- over-fixation with food, talking about how fat she thinks she is when she isn't, that sort of thing -- I'd be able to notice and in a position where she trusts me enough to let me help. Plus, I'd have made a new friend.

I wouldn't ask her because she might misunderstand it and she might think that I'm being nosey. I will just observe her and if I thought that she really needs help then I would pay her a neighborly visit. I would not pretend that I can give her everything she needs because I, too, have my own family to care for (I don't want her to slap that to my face).

If it was someone who I did not have an ongoing dialog with I would mind my business. It could be something that the person doesn't want to talk about-cancer, depression or drug abuse. Maybe I would have a b-b-q and while they passed asked if they wanted to come over for something just in case it was that they couldn't afford to eat.

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