Is it okay to wear a bridesmaid dress as my wedding dress?

I think that dress fits in with the others beautifully. There is the similar sparkely detail around the neckline, there is similar pleating and draping in the bodice, it is full length and very formal, but in a style that will flatter someone who isn't a stick. I don't think those other dresses are as awfully sexy and revealing as I was expecting from your description, but neither would I, as a full figured and fairly modest woman, be comfortable wearing them.

People's reading comprehension (or lack thereof) astounds me sometimes. The bride isn't telling her to wear one of those dresses, she told them all to pick what they want to a point but gave her sisters complete freedom and keeps vetoing everything that the author finds. It is so frustrating when naturally thin women just don't understand how difficult it is to find something that flatters our figures and how we've gotten it down to a science.

I assume you have tried explaining to her that you will look "plainer" and much more jarring next to her sisters in a dress that hangs on your bumpies all wrong than you would in a more understated but flattering dress. Do you live close enough to her that you could do a shopping trip? Maybe the visual of trying on the dresses that would flatter her sisters that are just all wrong for you and then trying on some things that are more suited to your figure would help her understand.

Skinny women just don't understand the art of camouflage, and that slinky is just not a look that works when you are lumpy. I'm not sure on the colors here and I don't know your exact problem spots but I found a site that seems to have some stuff that might make her happy. http://www.lightinthebox.com/Jane-Krakow... http://www.lightinthebox.com/Empire-Spag... http://www.lightinthebox.com/2010-style-... http://www.lightinthebox.com/Adrienne-Frantz-A-line-V-neck-Floor-length-Taffeta-Emmy--Evening-Dress--FSD0359-_p67979.html http://www.lightinthebox.com/2010-style-A-line-Scoop-Sleeveless-Floor-length-Chiffon-Evening-Dress--FSH0488-_p83631.html As for the rest, the stress of wedding planning does weird things to the logic and reasonableness centers of your brain and then you look back later and wonder - "Who was that crazy person?" .

Just try to stay calm and keep sending suggestions until you find one you both can live with. And never underestimate the power of good foundation garments, a bridal strapless comes in every size imaginable and does wonders, they're practically corsets but a lot more comfortable. I still wear mine for special occasions, even if I don't need the strapless part.

Also: don't be afraid of altering. If you find a kind of plain but formal enough in style dress, try to imagine where you could have a seamstress add some bling to pump it up to the sparkle level of the other dresses. Slits can also be stitched up to a level that is more comfortable to you, say knee height.

I so understand having sisters in law that make you feel huge. Both of mine are just twigs. (I made sure to choose my bridesmaid dresses with the heaviest bridesmaid in mind, I knew my SsIL would look good in most anything.) Good luck!

Personally, I don't really see anything wrong with the dresses the sisters have picked out. They're certainly not really my taste, but they're not the least attractive bridesmaid dresses I've ever seen. The reality is, it doesn't matter if anyone thinks they're appropriate or not.

If the bride deems them appropriate, then they're fine. Honestly, it sounds like you could really give a rip about the dresses. You just sound angry that they get to choose their dresses and you don't get to choose yours.

Which, personally, I think is a pretty valid complaint. It does seem a bit unfair that you don't get any input if everyone else got some. I think the question is what does she want you to wear?

If it's something that you can stomach, I'd just roll with it. If you really feel uncomfortable I don't see why you can't explain to her that you feel extremely uncomfortable in a revealing dress and would like to be extended the same privilege as the other bridesmaids in choosing your own dress. The reality is that they are her sisters and you are not.

So, while you're a bridesmaid you aren't her sister and will be treated accordingly. It sucks, but that's reality. That being said - you're too hung up on "real bridesmaid dresses".

If you decide to wear a burlap sack and walk down the aisle, then that sack will be your bridesmaid dress. Anything one wears while being a bridesmaid is a "real bridesmaid dress". I have a hunch that if you dig in your heels she's going to do the same and you're going to end up having to choose wearing something you don't like vs. dropping out of the wedding.

It doesn't really sound like either of you are willing to compromise and, like it or not, she gets to call the shots. Decide whether it's worth sacrificing your relationship with your brother over this.

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