My fiance is being Unreasonable & Selfish and I am starting to get second thoughts...?

No, you are demonizing yourself. You are trying to justify his behavior so you can justify getting back with him. You really have to get out of this reasonable/unreasonable frame of thinking.

You are who you ARE, and you need what you NEED. Either he supplies that .. or he doesn't. And if he doesn't, people don't really change, and we certainly cannot make them change.

If you are not happy with him, you would only stay with him if you WANT to be unhappy. - You wanted more. He didn't.

You needed to break it off, not try to be friends, btw. But you were right to back out. He wasn't offering what you needed.

- He got angry and called you names. No excuse for that. When we hurt, we have two choices: we either cope with our hurt, or we throw it into anger to try to avoid facing our hurt.

Those who use anger for their hurt .. wreck relationships. Never excuse abusive behavior like his. - Love is NOT what makes a relationship work.

Love only makes us hope it will work. So what if he interjected "I love you" in between his bouts of verbal abuse? He's an abusive person.

Apparently one who thinks it is okay to abuse someone you love. This is NOT about whether or not you are holding a grudge. It is about whether or not you care about yourself enough to take care OF yourself.

Getting back with someone who is verbally abusive is never a good idea, and is never any way to take care of yourself and your happiness. When we are confused, it's because in our gut we know the answer .. and we don't like it. So we throw a mist of confusion over our head so we don't have to see the unpleasant truth.

In this case .. he's NOT a risk for a relationship. He is emotionally immature, selfish, and while he may be very attached to you this is not what love is. No guy who cares about a woman, who sincerely cares, will risk losing her by sleeping with someone else or even suggesting he might be allowed to.

If he genuinely cares about her, he will be very careful to avoid running her off. Sure he begged you to get back .. that was when HE controlled the shots. But when it comes to you and your needs ... he's not so willing is he?

See .. again you told him a second time that he wasn't going to get HIS way .. and he called you *****. Some "love", huh? You stated your needs.

They were reasonable, even though you SHOULD have had enough sense to not even consider every getting back with him.

Being with a guy that doesn't feel secure in himself. Its tiring you know. He doesn't treat you properly.

He abuses you. Imagine if you or your friends is in marriage like this. You won't want you or your children have that condition.

Honey, he doesn't luv you. And he isn't deserved you. Proven from verbal abuses he says to you.

He plead to you cause he knows he always can use you for his own wants. He is using you cause you always accepts his apology. I would suggest you remove him completely from your life coz man like this will steal away your future.

Dragging you into darker world. He, now abuses you with words. I just cant imagine if you both gets marriage.

He might continue abusing you with attacks. And that can end up fatal to your life. Always knows that you are worth n precious fir God.

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