Why do women turn in to Bridezilla when it comes to planning their wedding?

My friend's sister, completely cute and Texan though a little naive, suddenly turned in to BrideZilla when she finally got engaged. She even discounted a marathon in October 2008 because she plans on being pregnant by then (her wedding is going to be in July 2008). In fact, this is so common an occurrence that they made a reality TV show about these crazy women.

Asked by fr0stin3 47 months ago Similar questions: women turn Bridezilla planning wedding Entertainment > Television.

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Stress and Pressure There's an unbelievable amount of pressure put on this one day of a woman's life. The day starts getting built up when we're tiny kids and just gets worse. It is one of the most anticipated days of our lives - moreso than with men even.

And it doesn't help that most brides take on the role as sole wedding planner. Most brides have never planned such a large affair, and people you delegate to fail at their jobs, funding falls through somehow, everything costs ten times what it should, and most grooms don't do much to help. Plus a bride is only one woman - but she feels she has to do it all herself or it won't get done just right.

Trust me, the brides aren't having fun leveling cities and breathing! And it's all the fault of a stupid society that says a wedding can't have any mistakes. Photos must be perfect.

And everyone invited must be happy. So we freak out. We lash out at others.

We take out the cost of the cake on those we love. Because we can. Because brides get a special pass that is only given again when they're pregnant.

Just try to avoid Bridezillas at any cost and have some sympathy. They know their nuts. But they can't do anything about it.

Just stay out of their paths, and no one gets hurt. (However, I think your friend's pregnancy plans are not only a little scary, they're a LOT presumptuous. Let's put it this way - it took hubby and I 2.5 years to get pregnant once we started trying.

Granted most people don't take so long, but she shouldn't be holding her breath for conception within 3 months. 6 months is the average for perfectly normal cases. ) .

Girls dream about this day even when they're very young. They get all these crazy ideas in their head that it is going to be PERFECT and it is going to be exactly like this or like that! How many women do you know of that, when day dreaming about their wedding plans, allow a margin for error like: * Trouble with one of the selfish bridesmaid * Groomsman or Bridesmaid exceedingly late or already drinking!

* Flowers/Cake not being correct when they arrive * Rain interrupting an outside wedding * Gaining weight and the dress being snug Just to name a few things! The fact is, that women think everything is going to go how it is in their head and with any sign that it's not going that way, they go NUTS! And not only that, look how much work all of this takes.

You're not only dealing with wedding and rehearsal dinner plans, but all of the rest of your normal life as well! Come on ladies, day dream with a margin for error! Has no woman learned from the past?

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My daughter just got married and she had a few bridezilla moments. We would laugh and say "bridezilla is here. " I think all the stress and planning just comes out in different ways for the bride to be.

There are so many decisions, details, and checks to write! Who wouldn't be frustrated to the point of monsterous behavior? Txteacher's Recommendations Bridezillas: The Complete First Season Amazon List Price: $26.95 Used from: $18.06 Average Customer Rating: 4.0 out of 5 (based on 6 reviews) Bridezilla Women's Cut T-Shirt .

Because society allows it.... We hear so much about "bridezillas" that alot of women feel that means they are "owed" the chance to be a mega-witch to everyone they deal with while planning for their wedding. Society says that's the norm, and gives these girls the impression that if they aren't jerks to everyone then their wedding isn't "about them" anymore. I get so sick of hearing girls say this is "my day" and I want it "my way"....its disgusting.

Yes, it is your day so-to-speak, and you can pick things the way you want them....but nothing gives a person an excuse for becoming a monster to deal with. I pity their future husbands...if they are this bad engaged---wait until they get the free ride they'll feel entitled to when pregnant. Watch out!.

1 PenguinSage, regarding your answer "Stress and Pressure":I'm not saying that I know any better (you can tell, I'm not married), but it would appear that there is a lot of pressure for this one day that will be remembered in photos/video/DVD, but it shouldn't be the "happiest day of one's life" if one's married life only starts then. There's this misconception that this is the apex of one's relationship with the fiance, but if one looks at it that way, it'll only go downhill from there, right? If this is the best of the best, there's no room for improvement later in life, one is selling one's happiness short by making this the "best."Who knows, I may just be the worst when it comes to my day, for right now, pregnancy seems to be an understandable excuse to act that way.

Hormones are out of your control. But choices like with a wedding....don't second guess oneself. Have the wedding you want no matter what other people want, its your wedding.

PenguinSage, regarding your answer "Stress and Pressure":I'm not saying that I know any better (you can tell, I'm not married), but it would appear that there is a lot of pressure for this one day that will be remembered in photos/video/DVD, but it shouldn't be the "happiest day of one's life" if one's married life only starts then. There's this misconception that this is the apex of one's relationship with the fiance, but if one looks at it that way, it'll only go downhill from there, right? If this is the best of the best, there's no room for improvement later in life, one is selling one's happiness short by making this the "best."Who knows, I may just be the worst when it comes to my day, for right now, pregnancy seems to be an understandable excuse to act that way.

Hormones are out of your control. But choices like with a wedding....don't second guess oneself. Have the wedding you want no matter what other people want, its your wedding.

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Legally can my mom force me to turn off the television I am 18 yrs old.

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