Would you take your children to visit their other parent in prison?

It's a fundamental right of someone to have access to their children, regardless of who they are and where they are. Admittedly, the nature of the crime/willingness of the child must be taken into account but for the most part I think that the right applies. Also dependent is the role that the imprisoned parent played in the child's life prior to being imprisoned.

If it is a young child and their mother/father is suddenly imprisoned, it isn't right not to bring them to see their parent at least once or twice a week. If the child has had no contact with their parent, then I don't think there's much need to take a child to see them. If it's a short term I think that they could serve it and then see the child, if longer then perhaps they should get to see the child if they suddenly reform.

Everybody deserves a second chance. Of course, if the child does not want to go, that's fine. So long as the guardian/parent looking after them informs them as best they can, free of bias.

If it is severely disturbing crime, such as child molestation or murder, then I would accompany the visiting child after visiting the imprisoned first to see what they will say and that they will not scare/disturb the child. The child is the priority, second to the wishes of the parent.

I find it hard to imagine that anyone I'd have kids with would end up in prison. But if they did, well they'd still be my child's mother, and visiting in prison would be the only way my children would get to see their mom for maybe a period of years. So yes, I'd take them.

Not also that "take them" implies I think my partner is worth sticking with, and I'm visiting them myself! In these clips, the father who's in prison is a better parent to his son than his mom on the outside is... youtube.com/watch?v=OuiSdTPdqbs youtube.com/watch?v=lnL6PqrX6kU youtube.com/watch?v=67CJxY-pF-8.

As a coach, I am going to have to say noway! This is not an environment a child should be around. However, age plays a big part in this.

If the child is at the age where they are familiar with illegalities and bad things some people do, then maybe. The issue I find in my clients is this. When you bring your child to see the other parent in jail, this arises a lot of other questions from the child.

Emotionally, it is not fair to the child and it can cause issues with you and your child. Bringing your child to a jail to see their other parent is confusing to them and they make look at them as if they are "bad" and you are "good". If your child starts asking you questions, you cannot take them to the jail and then lie to them.

You will have to find the right way to explain what is going on and this is not usually good for children. They cannot process this information like we do. They may turn on you and think you are making the other parent look bad or they may feel they have to prove their love to the both of you.It gets the child in the middle of an issue that has nothing to do with them and that they are too young to understand.

This can be hard because knowing what the right thing to do is challenging. It really depends on your childs age, but the most important thing to remember with whatever your decision is, is that you talk with your child first. You need to let the child know that the other parent is not bad.

It does not matter what the parent has done, it is still the childs parent. Do not ever bad mouth the other parent. Also, let the child ask questions, but answer carefully and never give details.

This is the biggest mistake. Your child should not end up feeling guilty or sad for you or the other parent.Do not put the child in the middle. It is your choice, but I would suggest you do not bring a child into that environment, especially when it is the childs parent.

It is not fair to the child.

I would. I know my husband well.. if he ended up in prison it was either wrongful imprisonment or he what he did was honorable. If the confinement didn't kill him losing his kids would.

We'd visit weekly at the very least.

Yes, depending on many factors. They have a right to know their mother and you would have to think what you would feel if the situation is reversed. People have different attitudes in prison then they do on the streets.

I believe God is there because everyone that goes there finds him!

Like other answerers here, I think it's tremendously unlikely that I'd find myself in this situation. That being said, I would. As much as the circumstances are less than ideal, I think it's still important for children to spend at least some time with both parents.

I was 14 when my mom went to prison. Both my parents are highly educated, each having multiple masters degrees. We lived in a million+ dollar home and I had a lifestyle of the very wealthy.My mom was obsessed with money and material things.

Even though she earned a high six figure income, she had access to millions of dollars of funds at her job with NBC. For reasons nobody really understands, she embellezed about a quarter of a million dollars. There is simply no way any person has the right to "judge" anothers actions.

There are things that took place in their early years of development that you simply cannot understand. My mom was NOT a bad person. She had some bad "wiring" in her own mind due to ways she was raised.

Things that made her truely have an addiction to money and material things. Anyhow... imagine what it is like for a child like myself, living in the wealthiest of communities, have a parent go to prison.It destroyed me emotionally. Her incarceration was FAR MORE of a punishment to me, than it was for her.

Adults can handle consequence through rational process. But at 14, just establishing my own identity, this was devasting. I was embarrassed... it felt like a reflection on me.

And people that were suppose to be friends of our family... the also "disappeared" from my life, as if I was plagued with a disease, by what my mom had done. But, my dad, took myself and my brother to the prison every single weekend... Saturday and then Sunday, for an entire year, to visit with my mom. I NEVER looked at my mom as a bad person.

Matter of fact, that visitation was some of the only time I felt "relaxed." I was in a place with other families, that understood. That did not judge me.

That did not judge my mom. That did not judge our family. Because my mom was able to maintain a relationship with her children, she completely changed.

She worked at the prison for $.50 cents an hour.Seriously... fifty cents an hour. And every dime she made would come to me in a check, once a month so I could buy clothes or something. When my mom was released I had a mom that was engaged, that cared about our relationship, more than "things.

" I had a mom that would have given her life and all material things, just so I could have all my dreams.My mom died of cancer 9 years after being released. But those 9 years were completely altered, in a positive way, because my dad took us to visit her in prison... Forcing my mom to realize (and change) that material things are not as important as relationships. And that the well being and happiness of her children, were far more gratifying that a new dress or new car.

People that have never been in this circumstance develop opinions based on just assumption. I am living testimony that maintaining a relationship with a parent that is incarcerated is probably one of the best ways to rehabilitate and change people... but also to allow a child to have the stability of their parent in their life. And I don't care where they are.. who they are.. children NEED the love of their parents.

Today, I am a successful CEO and miss my mom very much. I am very grateful of the strength of my dad to give me a relationship with my mom...regardless of the adult circumstances I did not entirely understand. I hope society can become FAR MORE tolerant and understanding... and stop with the assumptions and judgments that are made from a place with no expierence.

Thanks for reading.

My reaction under such a scenario would be contingent on the nature of the crime involved, the contrition felt and expressed by my husband and the emotional maturity of my children. If the crime was such that rehabilitation is realistic, that would be a point in favor. If he was truly contrite, expressed remorse, and indicated that to our children, that would be a point in favor.

If my child were not yet emotionally mature to handle the sight of his father behind bars, even if the former two conditions were met, I would not take him to visit my husband until he was emotionally mature to handle it.

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