I'm Pregnant and I want to leave my abusive boyfriend?

He will never realize how he is, because he doesn't see you as important. He won't see his next girlfriend as important, or the one after that, or the one after that. He only thinks he is important.

That is why he thinks it is okay to hurt you. You are nothing to him. You have to realize this.

To get out of this relationship, first you have to look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you don't deserve to be treated this way. Say it over and over until you believe it. Then call your friends.

They still like you, I'm sure, and have been waiting for this call. Ask if you can stay with one of them for a while, until you get past this situation. I'm quite certain you'll get a yes.

Pack your things while he is out (and I mean for awhile, you do not want him coming home in the middle or he WILL either try to convince you to stay or hurt you) and leave. Take everything that is yours so you have no reason to go back, ever. Ask your friends to help you if you need it.

Once again, I'm sure they'll say yes in a heartbeat. Once you're in a safe place, call the police. Inform them that you have been in an abusive relationship, and need protection.

They will be very helpful as well. If you have any visable injuries, they will ask you to prosecute him for assault. I suggest you do it, but if you feel uncomfortable with it at least get a restraining order against him.

Call the police every time he violates it. EVERY TIME. If the limit is two hundred yards away from you at all times and you see him down the street from you, call the cops.

If you see him going to the gas station at the same time as you, call the cops. Get everything on record. Otherwise he will walk all over you, and the next thing you know you'll be back in that house acting as his punching bag.

In the meantime, get some hobbies. Join a bowling team or take some horseback riding lessons. Do something fun to remind you that you're YOU and not "you and him".

I also suggest you get a psychiatrist to help you work through any issues he's left you with, and also to help you be strong the next time you get lonely and start to remember only the good things. Eventually you'll be able to stand on your own. You're a smart woman to know that you're in a bad situation and need help.

I hope you end up alright. Heck, you can email me if you need someone to talk to. Just don't sit on those feelings of loneliness, they're bad news with this guy.

Good luck. :).

Oookkayyyy. So, you need to leave him...this is not okay in any way shape or form. I understand completely that you love him and you are scared to be alone, and it sounds like you are very codependent on him.

I was in a relationship where I was afraid to be alone and make the move to leave but you cannot stay unhappy forever and you are putting yourself in danger. Especially with the info about his dad, Its in his genes and its not okay. Girl you are 20!

So young. You need to go enjoy life and not have this hanging over you, time heals everything and you WILL move on and find someone who treats you right and would never even think of harming you. You have friends im sure that will help you the entire way.

It hurts to hear that you are stuck in a "trap" This happened to my mom and I for YEARS until my father passed away 9 months ago from alcoholism. You don't need this drama in your life. Take charge.

Now is the time to be selfish and think of yourself.

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