If I host a wedding shower am I required to give a gift as well?

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No I don't think a gift is required I would think your gift is providing the shower.

Most people would just go ahead and give a gift anyway. This question gives you away, as well as the bride to be.

Goodbye! Said: 2 Well, Geppetto, I don't think it's a silly question. Hosting a shower is a pretty expensive endeavor.

I think a lot of people aren't sure - if they're closely related to the bride and/or groom - if they are supposed to give a gift in addition to whatever else they're doing. For example, do the bride's family buy the couple a wedding gift? In addition to the thousands of dollars they're already shelling out for the wedding?

I'd say, no. That the wedding IS their gift. What about the groom's family?

The pay hundreds of dollars for flowers and the rehearsal dinner. Are they supposed to cough up another hundred or more, on top of that, for a gift? I'd say no - those ARE their gift to the couple.

And I think in this case, the shower IS the gift. I think it's great that the asker cares enough about etiquette to ask about what the right thing is. And while this is just my opinion, I'd be curious what Emily Post - and other AVers - would say.

Well, Geppetto, I don't think it's a silly question. Hosting a shower is a pretty expensive endeavor. I think a lot of people aren't sure - if they're closely related to the bride and/or groom - if they are supposed to give a gift in addition to whatever else they're doing.

For example, do the bride's family buy the couple a wedding gift? In addition to the thousands of dollars they're already shelling out for the wedding? I'd say, no.

That the wedding IS their gift. What about the groom's family? The pay hundreds of dollars for flowers and the rehearsal dinner.

Are they supposed to cough up another hundred or more, on top of that, for a gift? I'd say no - those ARE their gift to the couple. And I think in this case, the shower IS the gift.

I think it's great that the asker cares enough about etiquette to ask about what the right thing is. And while this is just my opinion, I'd be curious what Emily Post - and other AVers - would say.

3 I don't know what Emily Post says is the correct thing to do. However, I do know that my "aunt" (actually, my mother's cousin - but of my mother's generation, so I call her an aunt) who hosted my bridal shower did give me a gift, too. Certainly, I did not expect a gift from her, as I did consider she hosting the shower to be gift enough!

If you can afford to give a gift (even if it's small, like a $25 gift card for her registry), by all means, go ahead and give one. :) .

I don't know what Emily Post says is the correct thing to do. However, I do know that my "aunt" (actually, my mother's cousin - but of my mother's generation, so I call her an aunt) who hosted my bridal shower did give me a gift, too. Certainly, I did not expect a gift from her, as I did consider she hosting the shower to be gift enough!

If you can afford to give a gift (even if it's small, like a $25 gift card for her registry), by all means, go ahead and give one. :).

Geppetto replied to post #2: 4 Dear Goldie, I think your comment is based on what you would like it be instead of what it really is. What about guilt, or peer pressure....if you don't tip enough at a restaurant, don't you leave with a little less pride and satisfaction. Isn't there a tiny bit of guilt.

Don't you sort of slink out. If you don't give a gift at the shower, forever more you'll be rationalizing it to everyone..."Well I hosted the shower..I didn't have to give a gift" and all the other guilt ridden comments you'll make for the rest of your life. Dispite what the bride says you'll always wonder...To the host of the shower: Give a gift!

Then there are no questions about right or wrong and who decides right and wrong. I suggest you go out and find something sentimental to give. You'll be happy you did and the bride will treasure it more than the gift of a wedding shower.

Dear Goldie, I think your comment is based on what you would like it be instead of what it really is. What about guilt, or peer pressure....if you don't tip enough at a restaurant, don't you leave with a little less pride and satisfaction. Isn't there a tiny bit of guilt.

Don't you sort of slink out. If you don't give a gift at the shower, forever more you'll be rationalizing it to everyone..."Well I hosted the shower..I didn't have to give a gift" and all the other guilt ridden comments you'll make for the rest of your life. Dispite what the bride says you'll always wonder...To the host of the shower: Give a gift!

Then there are no questions about right or wrong and who decides right and wrong. I suggest you go out and find something sentimental to give. You'll be happy you did and the bride will treasure it more than the gift of a wedding shower.

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