Would you ever ask your spouse to choose between you and their family? What circumstances would cause you to give that ultimatum?

Before I did something like that, I would give him the option of just keeping us separate. I would be willing to just stay away from family get-togethers, if for some reason it was not possible for me to be around them. I think I could accept that a family relationship is important, even if I personally can't stand being in the same room with them.To some extent, everyone's family is different when no "outsiders" are there anyway.

I might, however, be willing to make such an ultimatum if having the family around at all was a safety risk to me or my children. If them being in the picture at all was destroying my own family, I could see asking him to choose. Fortunately, I don't think I'll ever have this problem!

So sorry for people who do.

No. I ask that my spouse regard me with the same importance he does his family but I would never ask he chose me over them. There have been disagreements between family members of his and myself and I generally keep him out of it as it's unfair to do otherwise.

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